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How is everybody coping?
Hi,
I just wondered how everyone is doing?
I know for us its been a huge change to our usual routine and there are still moments where we feel we're not coping even though these are getting fewer but it seems that feeling where you question what you are doing is a mark of parenthood!
Even though you get more used to your new life and have some lovely moments its still a massive change so just wondered how you're all finding it and whether you have found particular things which have made the transition easier.
One of the best things for me has been to have nct friends come visit. Because I couldn't drive this was a lifesaver and helped us all realise our babies all do the same weird things and we can share tips for feeding and other issues.
Perhaps the 2nd timers can reassure us that whilst its mental coping with 2 or more that at least its not such a big change second time round because to some extent you've already made a lot of the big changed with your first????
Love to all x
I just wondered how everyone is doing?
I know for us its been a huge change to our usual routine and there are still moments where we feel we're not coping even though these are getting fewer but it seems that feeling where you question what you are doing is a mark of parenthood!
Even though you get more used to your new life and have some lovely moments its still a massive change so just wondered how you're all finding it and whether you have found particular things which have made the transition easier.
One of the best things for me has been to have nct friends come visit. Because I couldn't drive this was a lifesaver and helped us all realise our babies all do the same weird things and we can share tips for feeding and other issues.
Perhaps the 2nd timers can reassure us that whilst its mental coping with 2 or more that at least its not such a big change second time round because to some extent you've already made a lot of the big changed with your first????
Love to all x
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I have two under 18 months and Oh. My. God...I feel like I don't even know what day of the week it is (it's Friday, right?
The main thing I have learned about parenthood so far is that you will ALWAYS feel guilty about something (sometimes everything!). Once you accept that, things get a bit easier!
I definitely agree about always feeling guilty about something!
The little man has changed our lives massively. We live in central London and don't have friends with children so things sure are different now! I think we're coping quite well but it is full on - and friends don't seem to get it when I don't text back or I don't have time to have a gossip on the phone. One friend even heard him screaming in the background and said "do you need to get off the phone?". They have no idea!!!
I think at the moment it all still feels new and we need to get in more of a routine as a family. Although not sure how to find time to actually make dinner though!!
However, i do feel my confidence has had a bit of a knock. If i'm out and about with hubby it's fine but even just walking round the block with Ryan in the pram by myself i just feel really nervous.
Really proud of myself today as i drove into town, and then we had a good hour wandering round getting little jobs done. He was asleep the whole time which helped! I joined the children's centre so we will be going there on thursday to the breast feeding cafe, as i've still not fed in public - or even in front of family, so that's the next hurdle for me. I also want to go to their under ones group as i don't know many people with babies and would really like to!
A big problem i have is getting house stuff done. Have to wait til hubby gets home a lot of the time, and then i sometimes feel like i'm leaning on him too much expecting him to watch the baby while i wash up etc, when he's already been at work all day. He does love it though, he's a really good dad - although he's still not changed a nappy!
Oliver is now 7 weeks and I feel like I finally am getting a grip of it all. Oliver and I have the occasional bad day where he won't let me put him down so i get the sling out but generally he is really good and I couldn't imagine what life was like without him.
My confidence in going out and about is growing more and more and I have been out a couple of times without him and left him with dad which I can highly recommend although it feels very strange!!!
tiger - as time goes on I have started to get more and more chores done although it tends to be little bursts. e.g. a small amount of ironing.
brunette - dinner is all in the timing and still I have to abandon it sometimes because little one is crying.
All worth it though when they give you that first proper smile
SB x