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Hello, and is/was anyone else not ready?
Hi as you can probably see im new here, although i have spent a couple of weeks lurking in the background and reading up on some of the topics.
im due to start ttc (i think thats the only acronym i understand on here!) next week and i feel terrified. im married and we're in a good as a position as any to start our family (OH has a daughter already who lives with her mum).
whilst i would like a family i dont feel broody, and i dont feel this massive urge for a baby which i feel i should have. my parents had trouble concieving me and im worried i may have similar problems (based on nothing other than irrationality!!) so we've decided just to see what happens.....after all reading on here it could take some time.
i dont want to offend anyone, as i can see how much some people have been through in trying for a baby and my heart goes out to you.
i just wondered if anyone else felt so out of their depth, or whether everyone else just knew the time was right?!?
thanks x
im due to start ttc (i think thats the only acronym i understand on here!) next week and i feel terrified. im married and we're in a good as a position as any to start our family (OH has a daughter already who lives with her mum).
whilst i would like a family i dont feel broody, and i dont feel this massive urge for a baby which i feel i should have. my parents had trouble concieving me and im worried i may have similar problems (based on nothing other than irrationality!!) so we've decided just to see what happens.....after all reading on here it could take some time.
i dont want to offend anyone, as i can see how much some people have been through in trying for a baby and my heart goes out to you.
i just wondered if anyone else felt so out of their depth, or whether everyone else just knew the time was right?!?
thanks x
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WIth it being your 1st (when you are successful) I imagine you'll be very happy once over the surprise (yes, surprise even tho you are ttc) because if you were dead set against it happening, you wouldn't be on here would you? Try and adopt as relaxed an attitude as poss and go with the flow... it gets easier I promise x good luck x
I would say it is a big step, a baby changes your life and you need to be happy its what you want at the moment. Don't rely on the fact that it may take you 6 months to conceive, there are a few people on here that have done it in their first month or couple of months trying so you never know! Have a talk to your oh, tell him your concerns he may put your mind at rest. If not what harm will six months wait do until you are certain its what you want.
Good luck in whatever you do, we are all here to give you advice and encouragement!! Liz xx
i was begining to think i was the only person to feel like this........
im sure in a couple of months ill be fretting about why i havent fallen, and ill be baby obsesed....in the meantime im just looking forward to the fun of trying.
will no doubt be inundating you all with questions soon.
thanks again xx