Loss

H2525 · Oct 2, 2007 4:45PM

Hi,
I went for my first scan (3 month) last Monday to find the sack was empty? had to go back in the next day to have it all removed..I am heartbroken it took us two years to get to this stage and no one can explain why it happened I had a healthy pregnany no bleed etc...want to try again as soon as we can but they say wait at least two months! I feel that in some way its my fault I also lost my Dad earlier this year and dont seem to be allowed any happeness.
Sorry just had to get that off my chest..I do know I am not the only one to go through this but feel so alone..

mootsie · Sep 19, 2007 7:09AM

helen2525
i am so sorry to hear your news, it must feel like everything is against you at the moment. I am really sorry for your loss.
its definately not that you are not entitled to any happiness, it just means that the angels have not yet finished making the perfect baby that you will one day have and so you need to wait a little bit longer that's all xxx

H2525 · Sep 19, 2007 7:09AM

Thanks for your reply x

sez31 · Sep 19, 2007 7:33AM

im so so sorry we are all here for you sending you lots of luck for your future xxx

H2525 · Sep 19, 2007 7:37AM

Thank you everyone x

becs73 · Sep 19, 2007 8:40AM

hi helen so sorry to hear your news. i also had mmc in april and only found out at 12wk scan had thought all was going well. it does get easier after time, but give yourself time to heal.
thinking of you becs xxx

H2525 · Sep 19, 2007 1:57PM

thanks becs x

Baby Boom · Sep 19, 2007 2:28PM

oh chick, bless ya...it's not your fault it was just nature, maybe a holiday would be a good idea to relax in a few months time am sure things will look better, you've had a hard year!
sorry bout your losses
good luck for the future

guineapig-52196 · Sep 20, 2007 5:32AM

Im so sorry to hear your sad news, that really is nature being cruel and is not your fault. Sending lots of baby dust your way. Take it easy.
xxxxxxx

eloisesprake · Sep 20, 2007 7:07AM

Helen, I'm so sorry for you and your oh
xx

camlo · Sep 20, 2007 1:47PM

Helen - you must be devestated and I hope you feel well enough to start trying again soon. You are always more fertile after having a pregnancy even if it did end early so hopefully you won't have such a long wait. xx

H2525 · Sep 21, 2007 11:28AM

Thanks x

justmarried · Sep 22, 2007 7:46AM

So sorry for your losses. Neither were your fault...everyone (well most!) people deserve happiness and so do you. Have a rest for a few weeks and only when ready try again. I believe in fate and what is meant to be. I miscarried very early into first preg but then got pg just 3 months later and couldn't be happier with the timing. It will happen for you x x x

gempot · Sep 22, 2007 9:30AM

Really sorry to hear that helen,

No words are going to make it any easier. Chin up and stay positive im sure your dad will want you to keep strong and focused on what you want in life.

Makka_Pakka2 · Sep 23, 2007 3:05PM

I'm so sorry Helen to read about your mmc and the death of your Dad. I had a missed miscarriage just like you back in April as well and I was completely devastated. It was so traumatic and heartbreaking but I do agree with others that time does heal the wounds. My brother's girlfriend also died suddenly aged 25 a few wks after my mc so it was a rubbish 2007 for me too.

I read a few books on miscarraige to try and get some answers, which I found helpful. The best one I found was "Miscarriage: Women's Experiences and Needs" by Christine Moulder (I bought it off amazon). It's a collection of other women's experiences of mc and it made me realise that what I felt was completely normal.

I was told to wait one month for a normal AF before trying again (which we did) and I was lucky enough to become pg straight away after that. I'm 17 wks and all seems fine this time, so it can happen again very quickly,

Take care sweet and good luck,

Jo x

P.S. I found chatting on this site with others going through the same thing at the same time really helpful too. The upside is that I'm made friend with some of the girls on here through our discussions.

H2525 · Oct 2, 2007 2:08PM

Jo,
Just to say its been a while since I checked my post's but thank you, your words are very kind...just waiting to feel better then will start to TTC again just getting through each day now but its good to be back at work.
Thanks again and hope all goes well

bluebird-36842 · Oct 2, 2007 4:45PM

Hi Helen

So sorry to hear of your devastating loss. I mc last year and i was totally heartbroken. Hope each day get a little easier for you and that you are soon well enough to try again. lots of love to you and your other half, bluebird xxxx

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