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Hi ladies,
Hope you and lo are doing well.
i just came on here really to get your advise well really to see how you would feel in my situation.
I found out tonight that my brother who is getting married next year is not inviting DS. I am very upset about this and think that as he is his nephew he should be there although i could understand if he did nt want other children their and if it was anyone elses wedding such as a friend or cousin i wouldnd expect DS to be asked. I just feel that as a nephew its a wedding that our little boy should be able to go to. Am i being unresonable?
xx
Hope you and lo are doing well.
i just came on here really to get your advise well really to see how you would feel in my situation.
I found out tonight that my brother who is getting married next year is not inviting DS. I am very upset about this and think that as he is his nephew he should be there although i could understand if he did nt want other children their and if it was anyone elses wedding such as a friend or cousin i wouldnd expect DS to be asked. I just feel that as a nephew its a wedding that our little boy should be able to go to. Am i being unresonable?
xx
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we had a friends wedding last week where DS wasnt invited which ment i only stayed for the ceremony and meal and dashed off to pick him up from a friend, we had no childen at our wedding with the exeption of close familys childen, more so as all the people who could look after them would have been there anyway
I think i will try and speak to my brother today and tell him that i am very upset about this situation and want to make it clear that it is a shame that he doesnt want DS there. We will see what happens. I find it very hard to talk to them about problems ect as I dont get on with his other half.
Thanks for your response certainly has made me feel better and that i am not over reacting.
My brother and sister-in-law are getting married next year and have my DS as paige boy, he was the first position they chose!
It's very sad that your brother is not embracing his nephew like mine is, and i wonder if he'll regret it. Maybe you could ask that your DS goes to the ceremony and reception but then your in-laws pick him up before the evening?
However, every wedding i've been to this year has had a no children rule. I'm going to one in october when the baby will be 8 weeks old and I said to my friend that I respected that it was her wedding etc but we wouldn't be able to go as I couldn't leave an 8 week old baby. She totally agreed and said we could bring him.
My sister is gettong married next year and i'd feel very hurt if my son was excluded from such a big family event as though he wasn't part of the family (although sure that's not their intentio, prob not thought). If my bbay was excluded from my sisters wedding i'd prob not go as i'd have nobody to leave him with as they'd all be at teh wedding!
I think you have every reason to feel hurt. Perhaps just have a word with your brother and explain how you feel and see what he says?xx
I spoke with my brother and explained to him that I was very upset by his decsision (not to get him to change his mind but to get it of my chest) also told him that if DS didnt go then we may not have been able to as I will only leave himm with Mil (he doesnt know any of Dh family well enough). My brother explained that he was welcome to come to the evening do and I said that we were planning on leaving him with someone for that part so that we could let our hair down. brother basically said it was fine if we couldnt make it, V hurtfull person since meeting his future wife. i spoke to my mum and dad (they are paying for the wedding) who had already had a conversation about children not going to the wedding to which my dad had replied he is my only grandchild and he IS going! Both parents feel very strongly that my little man should be there, mum spoke to brother and has has told him ds is going and is he makes any noise i will take him out of the church to a close family friend who will be waiting outside so i dont have to miss the service. luckily he agreed, although not sure if he had much choice! Mum said if they didnt agree then she would have just taken him in! I have since found out that brother and his future wives best friends children have been invited age 12 and 15. needless to say if DS had not been there and they had I would have just walked out the church!
Thanks for reading i know its a long rant.
Families eh!!!!!
xx
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I'm sure if it was his wife to be blood nephew he would be invited!
Good luck to them both, perhaps one day when they have children ov their own someone might do this to them! Xx
I can see why you're so hurt by your brother and maybe when he has a small child and someone is so vile to him he'll get it. But then you don't have to have children to have a bit of decency and consideration.
I'm so glad your parents are supportive and fully get where you're coming from. Did he seriously think you'd let your son just sit there wailing throughout the ceremony?! Good on your parents for standing firm. Perhaps if this wife wants to be bridezilla she should pay for her own wedding like most other people!x
His future wife is not the nicest person in the world, and to think i had her as my bridesmaid 2 years ago to be nice, ha!
xx
Not trying to play devils advocate but I know that when it was demanded of me that my nephew (who at the time hadnt been born) was invited it made me dig my heels in even more, BIL really nicely explaining his predicament to me melted my heart tbh lol
Oh and all 4 of the babies cried in church and all 4 were taken out lol with their mums missing the wedding they were so keen for their babies to attend!! x
They were so appreciative and took bubs out when she cried but really enjoyed rest of the wedding. I'm of the firm view that you should treat people how you want to be treated or it will come back to bite you on the bum!x