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A wedding and a Newborn....
Hello Ladies
I am G/C from pregnancy as I really need the advice of you all please.
Would you take a 6-8 week old newborn to a Wedding, where there is nowhere private to escape to for breastfeeding or for sleeping and where your DH is best man?
I am a first time Mum to be, and my baby is due in April. The Wedding is the end of June and is my DH's sisters big day so obviously a huge family event,.
Here is my dilemma;
1. The venue is purely for weddings, its not a hotel and has no rooms to book and nowhere to escape to to breastfeed or settle baby for a nap.
2. I want to be breastfeeding and working on aome sort of routine for sleep etc and this venue has no other rooms other than the one for the ceremony and the one for the reception,
3. Hubby is best man, which of course means he will have his duties to perform on the day and won't be around to help me much.
4. The wedding us a good 4 hours drive away from us,
I've had a few ideas, like asking my Mum to stay nearby and then take little one from me for a feed and a sleep... I've also wondered if I should just not go.
I am keen not to upset the Bride, and the other brother has 3 kids all under 5 so they will be in a similar position.
Anyone got some advice about what to do? I realise its not the Brides issue its mine, but I am a bit frustrated that the venue is so NOT suitable when you have children!
Thanks everyone in advance.
xx
I am G/C from pregnancy as I really need the advice of you all please.
Would you take a 6-8 week old newborn to a Wedding, where there is nowhere private to escape to for breastfeeding or for sleeping and where your DH is best man?
I am a first time Mum to be, and my baby is due in April. The Wedding is the end of June and is my DH's sisters big day so obviously a huge family event,.
Here is my dilemma;
1. The venue is purely for weddings, its not a hotel and has no rooms to book and nowhere to escape to to breastfeed or settle baby for a nap.
2. I want to be breastfeeding and working on aome sort of routine for sleep etc and this venue has no other rooms other than the one for the ceremony and the one for the reception,
3. Hubby is best man, which of course means he will have his duties to perform on the day and won't be around to help me much.
4. The wedding us a good 4 hours drive away from us,
I've had a few ideas, like asking my Mum to stay nearby and then take little one from me for a feed and a sleep... I've also wondered if I should just not go.
I am keen not to upset the Bride, and the other brother has 3 kids all under 5 so they will be in a similar position.
Anyone got some advice about what to do? I realise its not the Brides issue its mine, but I am a bit frustrated that the venue is so NOT suitable when you have children!
Thanks everyone in advance.
xx
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I would go myself with baby - Dex would sleep anywhere and he'd be happy in his pram x
I think its how comfortable you will feel feeding etc is what you need to decide x x - but I wouldnt worry too much about him/her sleeping! they tend to do that regardless!
By that time Dex and I had been out for good long 16 + hour days and it was fine x
I got married last year - and even though my reception was in a hotel we had lots of children asleep across seats and floors in the reception hall! x
I expressed in the disabled toilet twice in the day. And just flushed the milk down the toilet. (wasn't in a sterile breastpump) Every establishment need to have atleast a couple of toilet, I know it is not the best place to express, but it is doable.
Mind you I missed him terrible during the day andat 7 I was waiting at the door for my pil to come with him. They were late and I was a nervous wreck for a bit. But I did enjoy a couple hours away from Michael at that time as well.
You will probably find that:
a. There is no shortage of people wanting to give the baby a cuddle and give you a break. (I went to my grandma's 90th birthday party when ds2 was only 5 days old - I didn't see him all afternoon! I had to wrestle him off my aunt to bf him LOL!)
b. There is bound to be a quiet room/corner to bf. Take a nice big shawl, or invest in one of those bf covers. I have a knack now for immediately searching out quiet corners to bf in!
c. Baby will sleep quite happily in their pram/ or in your arms!
On a personal note, I love to see babies at weddings!
You don't say where you'll be staying - but if I were you I would get a nice hotel or something nearby, then you can always take yourself off if it all gets too much for you or baby. Noone will expect you to make it through to the wee small hours with a 6wk old. When we have gone to weddings with ours, we have always escaped around 10pm.
I would also add, that taking a baby to a wedding is hard work (I have done it) and the day tends to be about 'fitting baby in' rather than 'enjoying yourself' as it would be if just you and dh went as a couple.
Mx
When we got there we had to go straight to wedding as running so late so didn't get a chance to check in at hotel. The venue was the same as you describe with only one function room but BF'ing was fine. Had a large wrap like someone else suggested. Lo slept fine in his pram through the music and everything. We even took lo onto the dance floor for a slow dance (a lovely memory i have of the 3 of us together) and he loved the lights.
The journey back only took 4 hrs (with one stop) and i would do it again if needed.
Due to having to drop my eldest (she so wouldn't have enjoyed herself) at my Mums the journey took just over 6 hours. South Wales - East Sussex - South London. Only stop was for a quick shower and change in Sussex ready for the wedding.
Kerry, Freya and Erin
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I think I'll give it a go afterall- you've given me the courage !
Thank you everyone
xx
I think you will be fine taking lo. As other ladies have said, lo will sleep in pram and most likely through any loud disco music. One night wont upset any routine you have in place for long. I would recommend the wrap to BF but i would also suggest making you you BF in public a few times before so you are comfortable. If not can you express in advance and freeze? put it in feeze box and by the time you get to venue it will have defrosted. Sure the venue will have fridges and wouldnt mind. That way you could also treat yourself to a glass of champagne for toast. Make sure you enjoy the day and take time out and away when you need it because with a 6 week old you will get a lot of attention and people cooing. Sure it will be fine xx