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So unsure... please share your views!
I think I've posted on this before, but am so unsure... I have a 4 year old daughter and a 6 month old son, but I keep thinking of planning one more baby! I have two siblings, my oh is an only child. We both have serious careers though I manage to mostly work out of home. I have good help, but am pretty hands on. The thing is I LOVE CHILDREN and I ABSOLUTELY ADORE BEING A MOM. But everyone I know says It'll be really hard to cope with work and no 3... Also, I wonder why I'm not sure? Is that a sign I should or I shouldn't? Don't mean to confuse you, but would love some advice - even if it to share how you decided on having you babies...
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I think it's everyone elses negative responses having an effect on you not being sure & doesn't mean you shouldn't go ahead & have another child.
Enjoy whatever you decide.
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Caz x x
p.s what beautiful children you have, love the avtar pic!
I have spoken to my oh. He seems open to the idea, but is not overly keen. I think the ball is more in my court, as I'm the one who does more of the 'looking after'!
Frags_Jones, I think you're right. If I ahd more encouragement, or even less discouragement, I would probably be more sure... but just wonder if it is a decision one needs to be a hundred percent about....
Your youngest is only 6 months, so theres no need to have one straight away, is there? There's plenty of time... Maybe when little LO gets a bit older it would be easier to cope with 3?
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But you're right, I guess I'm looking for a sign to help me make up my mind...
i had never ruled out having a third, should - i , shouldnt i scenario, so when i found out i was preg again, i was chuffed to bits!
not having any more tho'!!
vikki xx
The hardest bit is when all three are crying/whinging etc! As ds1 can dress himself, we take a child each in the morning to dress etc and as the youngest 2 are very chilled out children, I have lovely days taking them to baby/toddler groups etc whilst eldest is at school. There's no way i'd have coped quite so well had he not been at school! He demands the most attention of the 3 of them!
Go for it if you want! All we had to change was our house and car, minor details really! lol And they're so worth it!!! x
Even the thoughts of going back to the whole baby scenario, sleepless nights, feeding, nappies etc etc didn't put me off.
So my advice would be to do it again! And btw I'm nearly 38 and although the pg was harder than my others I coped and am finding I'm getting more relaxed the older I get (had my 1st at 18 so have experience of being an older and younger mum)
Good luck with whatever you decidexx
It is hard work but the rewards are huge. When I told people about Amelia I was expecting negativity BUT so many women said they wish they had had one more... I read an interview with Richard and Judy and tho she has 4 kids she said her lifes biggest regret was not having one more with Richard as I think 2 are with her first hubbie.
You still have a good 5 years and beyond so dont worry. I would see how you feel by next year and if they feeling is still there then go for it.
Good Luck
d x
It is hard work but the rewards are huge. When I told people about Amelia I was expecting negativity BUT so many women said they wish they had had one more... I read an interview with Richard and Judy and tho she has 4 kids she said her lifes biggest regret was not having one more with Richard as I think 2 are with her first hubbie.
You still have a good 5 years and beyond so dont worry. I would see how you feel by next year and if they feeling is still there then go for it.
Good Luck
d x
We planned baby one but it happened very quickly (in first month) so was a shock, and I always knew I wanted another quite soon after but baby number two was a happy accident! I'm 25 so planning to wait another 5 years or so and then try for number 3. I'm one of 4 and so is my mum so I'd love to have 4 myself.
Good luck whatever you decide.
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I am 42 this year and have 5 children Curtis 19, Kimberley 17, Lauren 13, Ella 2 and Elliott 9 months and also work full time as a midwife and yes its hard work but would not change a thing and although we do not plan to have any more children (getting old now ) !!!!! I do feel rather sad. You still have a few years left yet to make a decision so just enjoy the two you have and take your time to decide Good Luck x
I'm 25 and have 3 kids. Brandon 6, Lily 4 and Reuben 6 months and I am 7 weeks with no.4!!!
I said no more after no.1 and agin after no. 2!!! Then when Lily was about to turn 3 I woke up one morning and said to dh -I want another baby- he nearly fell out of bed in shock tbh as he had been pestering me for another for approx 2 yrs lol.
As soon as I had Reuben I immediately knew I wanted another. We chatted about it and oh said lets go for it!! I thot maybe leave it till RJ was 1 or so and little did I know I was alreay preggers!!
I am delighted but do sometimes feel a bit scared that it will be hard work and it will but I am excited. My oh is VERY hands on- he is a house husband otherwise I def wouldn't have had them so close. I don't think you can ever be 100% sure- even when I was pregnant with RJ I would look into his little nursery and sometimes think oh no what am I doing!! Then other times I would go all gooey looking at the baby stuff. Now hes here and its the best decision I ever made.
I say go for it. What would be your biggest regret- having one more and finding it hard work for a while or as you say yourself leaving it too late and regretting it.