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Desperately unhappy baby.. and mum!!
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Just wondered if anyone had some advice out there. I have a beautiful 20 week old girl who is just a pain in the whatsit during the day!! She absolutely 100% refuses to nap and I've been trying her every day in her cot for weeks. After much protest I can often get her down in the morning (about 2 hours after woken up) but then after about 20 minutes she is screaming and completely uncontrollable. I will try and soothe her with dummy and snudgie blanket but eventually have to pick her up, bring her downstairs and play with her but she goes mental and is screaming and thrashing about as still really tired. She will then eventually go to sleep in my arms and the afternoon nap is a no go unless in pushchair. I'm at my wits end as back at work soon and really worried about mother in law looking after her and how she'll get on at nursery as they won't have time to hold her for 2 hours to sleep! Strange thing is, she goes to bed at 7.30 pm wide awake with NOTHING to pacify her except blanket and goes to sleep! So why does she not go down in the day?
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This is my first chat room post so be gentle with me but I have found some things helpful in settling my 9 week old son in the day and at night. I know he is a little younger than some of your little angels but I really found that the following things really work with him.
To calm him down when he is having a tantrum, i put him in a baby swing. I honestly thought that this was a waste of money when my mother in law turned up with it as a surprise present but i dont know what i would do without it. If he wont calm in the swing, I know he is either tired or hungry because he just loves the movement of it and will sit and nap in it for quite a while.
He doesnt really sleep in the morning but will have a long nap in the afternoon and i put him in his cot for this nap. This is fine for me because although he is not sleeping in the mornings, i am getting the afternoon to myself. It is also getting him used to his cot in his room, instead of the moses basket in our room at night. For this nap i swaddle him which i find is the key to getting him to sleep soundlly. I also turn on a lullaby toy which plays gentle songs for 10 minutes and then stops. If the baby cries, it automatically starts up again but if he continues to cry, i go in to his room, pick him up and give him a cuddle and then put him back down again. This seems to really settle him and he normally sleeps for about 3-4 hours.
At night, again is the swaddling.
I really found the book "The Baby Whisperer" helpful. I wouldnt spend the money on it, but if you could rent it from the library the basic principles in there are really good. It does have a routine, but i have chosen to ignore that and just use sections of the advice (like the swaddling etc..) which have really helped us.
I hope that this helps you too and that your little angels dont give you too much grief.
My daughter is 16weeks and will only tend to sleep in the morning if I hold her, I can sometimes put her in the bouncy chair, but she will wake after 10mins or so, she refuses to go in her cot during the day, but is fine at night. I can get her to have an hour's sleep in the afternoon, as long as I take her out in the pram. As soon as my partner comes home, she is all smiles and cuddles and takes her bottle straight off! I will speak to my partner on the phone or via text during the day to say what a pain she is, he comes home and asks what was I talking about!
Good luck sorry if I have bored you all
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The baby swing i have is made by Graco, but as it was a gift i dont really know any more than that. I have found the Toys R Us website really good for baby gear (in the Babies R us section) and i have seen some some baby swings on there aswell - some with little toys accross the front which would be great for your 20 week old as she probably needs amusing as well! I also think they have a sale on so it might be worth a look.
With the afternoon nap, again i cant recommend swaddling enough. I thought my son hated it so when i got him out of hospital i stopped doing but when i started doing it again, he really settled better with it. the other thing is that my son will always cry a few minutes after i have put him down. I always go in and pick him up, give him a cuddle and settle him and put him back in his cot. He sleeps fine then - almost as if he just needs to know i am there before he goes off to sleep!
Every baby is different though! and it must be hard for you guys that have another little one around as well.... Cant imagine how much hard work that is!
Hope everything goes well for you....
I f she can't sleep now I put her in it and carry her around for 5 mins. It carms her down and means I'm not having to hold her so my arms are free to do other things. once she calms i can take her out and put her into bed hey presto she's asleep!! I just wished I found one of these at the begining.:\)