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Wanderer Returns!!!
I have removed this post. My oh read it and was obviousy very hurt by the things I said, which is very understandable. He has pointed out some things to me, and he's right. I want to set the record straight and say that although I might not always see eye to eye with the inlaws, they are good people, who mean well and have helped us in many ways too.
[Modified by: Suzaie on 09 April 2007 16:35:47 ]
[Modified by: Suzaie on 09 April 2007 16:35:47 ]
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Not really missed much, not that i can think of anyway, Speak soonx
[Modified by: Suzaie on April 09, 2007 04:36 PM]
[Modified by: Suzaie on April 09, 2007 04:37 PM]
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Already stressing about the state of my house when i come back, and what will my father in law do to my beautiful garden. We trusted them a few years ago and I remember saying never again but my oh must of forgotten how bad it was.
ANd if your holding any granny boxing - mine must be included - she is a heavy weight - actually she looks like humpty dumpty in lipstick - let me know when they fight begins.
Glad you home safely and didn't do anything you've lived to regret. xxxxxxx
[Modified by: Suzaie on April 09, 2007 04:29 PM]
I had a topic called Fucking inlaws and my husband read it and wasn't happy either, what started out as a bit of harmless whinging became an issue. But I pointed out to him that I had to let off steam somewhere and it was harmless (really) although they do bug the shit out of me, to tell complete strangers than to say somethng that you might regret to them instead.
I once left a not very nice message by mistake on my in laws phone and they were devastated - it wasn't that bad, but they were really hurt by it so I know how you are feeling. Hope your ok xxxx
Dont despair - I know how bad you feel but at least they don't know how you feel about them. When i left the unpleasant message on their ansafone, they phoned my husband and said his mil wasn't well and could he go over. they were devastated that I had spoken about them that way. I could see why, but to be honest, I didn't say - you mum is a fat bitch and i never want to see her again. When my oh came home there were fireworks as you can imagine and they said they didn't want to speak to me. But i didn't care I had to ring and apologise. And in their defence they were really gracious about it and said - not to worry they were having a bad day and that they had overreacted. (which I thought they had) but even so we go over it. And before and after that incident I have always been nice ot them so it did sort of go back to normal.
Where the other business is concerned - you'd think i'd of learnt my lesson wouldn't you - but they have caused lots of problems in the past, they love my husband to be involved in their arguements and his mum in particular can be very manipulative. But when they were going through a rough patch my husband couldn't really see that. Now he knows fully what they are like. His mum will often say things in a totally different way to how it was meant and then play the innocent card. And yes he was upset by what he read - but if he was brutually honest he couldn't really dissagree with much of it - as I didn't lie. I told him they do upset me and I do find it hard to confront them (even though he tells me too) so I had to left off steam, and surely it makes me a nicer person that I feel the way I do about them, yet I'm still nice to them for his sake - you can't like everyone but as far as they are concerned they think I think they are wonderful.
I hope he doesn't torture you too long - you were only letting a bit of steam off, and if it is any concellation - we all did/do it all the time,
chin up
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