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Breastfeeding in public - how to be discreet?
I am really struggling with this! Until last week i have got away with just feeding at home as we've not been out very far. Last week we went to the trafford centre and had to feed, but copped out and used one of their bf rooms. Went out for lunch today and Ryan decided he was hungry so attempted a feed using a scarf to cover myself, but it was really difficult trying to get him latched on correctly and keep the scarf in position. Ended up with him getting hot and cross so we just whizzed home instead.
I do have nursing tops and bought some vest tops i can layer up, but my boobs are big, and i find as soon as i undo my nursing bra my whole boob falls out, i can't seem to get just the nipple out, and really don't want to be flashing the world before he gets latched on. I've also tried using my sling to feed him in but that doesn't really work either!
Any suggestions?
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I do have nursing tops and bought some vest tops i can layer up, but my boobs are big, and i find as soon as i undo my nursing bra my whole boob falls out, i can't seem to get just the nipple out, and really don't want to be flashing the world before he gets latched on. I've also tried using my sling to feed him in but that doesn't really work either!
Any suggestions?
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I think the main thing to do might be to pick your places and who you go with. Out shopping john lewis is very mum and baby friendly, the cafe is full of prams and no one will look twice at you. The right person with you will make you confident too. Theres a BF room in john lewis too but when i saw it it seemed like an extension of the toilet and thought why should my baby eat in a toilet? Went to the cafe where i could have a drink too!
I decided pretty early on that as henry eats so much, BF would be nigh on impossible if i wasnt brave, and would end up a bit down if i had to stay in all the time. I wouldnt BF in a proper rough pub or on public transport or anything (but i can live without these things) but most places i will do it and tbh no one cares or notices really. Plus as of last year its an offence for anyone to ask you to stop. I think attitudes are changing from in the past. Occasionally someone does look by mistake but then i usually notice they panic and try to look anywhere but! I tend to wear blouses that are in fashion or pull tops up with widgey round me, so my tummy is not on show x
i always have a feeding top under a normal top so my belly is covered
Do you have a pattern at all? I would much rather get my mum to make one than spend ??28 on one
http://www.fayeandlou.co.uk/products/breastfeeding-butterfly.html
Sometimes it's just about sitting in the right place. Sit with your back to most of the people, and sometimes I found if I pulled my pram up close to me with the hood up, then sat angled towards it I had a nice little triangle between my back and the pram.
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It's a difficult one we got caught out in Pizza Hut I'd just fed both babies in the van and Kayleigh wanted more waitress came over as most folk do twins attract attn and just said argh your breastfeeding the world is mostly ok but I survived with nursing tops and a hoodie plus blanket loosely draped worst thing was when my little guy got more milk than he bargained for and started choking trying to settle him and cover up quickly was a red face moment. Sadly both twins are now bottle fed bring back the convenience of breastfeeding.
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Many establishments provide discreet seating areas for nursing mums if you check in advance. Not in a toilet either.. there's some that think they're making you hide there, is accomodating you.
A loose top is handy. Something thin that baby will barely notice draped over the top of her head, so unless someone sits beneath you, there's not much to see
One thing that does attract attention is a panicky lady looking scared and guilty about her baby. Relax. You're doing nothing wrong.