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Poll - are you telling people?
Hi
Just wondering if you are a) telling people you are trying and b) will you tell people straight away when you get BFP? Are you finding it easy to keep to yourselfs?
I am finding this keeping quiet very hard and its making me feel down ! I am getting sooo many questions about not drinking etc etc and starting to think it would just be a lot easier to tell people we are trying and the questions will stop !
Not sure what to do when I fall? Just tell people I am still trying and lie to their faces? Or be honest with people? mmm its tricky.
Just wondering if you are a) telling people you are trying and b) will you tell people straight away when you get BFP? Are you finding it easy to keep to yourselfs?
I am finding this keeping quiet very hard and its making me feel down ! I am getting sooo many questions about not drinking etc etc and starting to think it would just be a lot easier to tell people we are trying and the questions will stop !
Not sure what to do when I fall? Just tell people I am still trying and lie to their faces? Or be honest with people? mmm its tricky.
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Kate (messaging you from her mobile - haha) xxx
Weve told people we're TTC only if they mention anything about babies.
Ive mentioned about a possible BFP with my SIL and best friend coz i got a faint line but i still said it was early days. We havent said anything to hubbys mum and dad and my mum and dad coz we didnt want to worry them.
Once i found out for definate i will tell families straight away no matter how far im gone.
Id rather wait till the 12th week to tell everybody else but i dont think i will be able to keep it quiet, its too exciting. Depends how you feel, If i was to lose it early on i would prefer that everyone was to know so i could get support.
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one reason i told one lady at my work is because i no she tried for years also to get preg with her son after 5 mc i think,shes a great older friend also always friendly and gives good advice
i have been tempted recently to tell my sister,she does keep hinting about another nephew/niece and i no she would be nice about it all but it just hasnt felt right
i do think if i hadnt been trying for so long i wouldnt have told anyone
and with regards to telling people when i do get my bfp im sure the important people il tell cant keep it all in lol that or the huge grin il have oon my face will give something away lol
We told a few people we were trying, which does feel like a weight is off your shoulders. Looking back I wouldn't have told people, as they now expect an update everytime you see them. And the first month it didnt happen, when they ask if your pg yet, is very hard. And also adds a lot of pressure. We did get our BFP in the 2nd month of TTC, but have only told family and very close friends.
Thankfully we don't see some of the others who knew we were trying so haven't had to tell anyone yet. I'd love to, but would rather wait to make sure everything's ok.
Sorry for the rambling!
L xxx
My sister I told on the grounds of I know she was TTC at the time. She's recently found out she's diabetic, so is waiting until that's under control to continue trying.
I won't tell anyone until 12 weeks. If we got pregnant next cycle the 12 week point would line up roughly with my 32 birthday, which would be nice
Didn't tell anybody else though. Once we got our BFP we told only parents & siblings, but my MIL started buying pressies for us which I hated as am of the opinion buy nothing til 12 weeks. So waited to tell friends (other than best friend!) until then.
Had 2 mc scares during first 12 weeks so glad we waited. Not told anybody TTC this time (and nobody has guessed yet!) but we've decided to tell nobody and even when we get BFP we're not telling anybody til 12 weeks, not after the fear of last time; not fair to worry them if same happens again.
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And how to deal with not telling people...come on here!! Ramble away!
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When I get my BFP I'll tell my mum and best friend straight away, hubby wants to wait till 12 weeks to tell his parents (fine by me as I know what she's like!) and then we'll tell everyone else.
I can't wait to tell my mum, she'll be sooo chuffed for us x
Oh and ref the not drinking - could say your turn to drive? That's what I do!
I keep changing my mind about everything by the second ! LOL !
as for bfp time im going to try and hold off as long as i can but we see how long i would last.lol.xxx
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okay ive told my best friend but shh dont tell hubby! lol just had to talk to someone other than dh about it! xx
We have told our parents as they offered help once LO was here and just enquired if they meant it as we were never ever planning to have LO's. Other than that, there is just a select few. I will probably tell those select few when we fall but other than that will try and keep it quiet. Saying that, I am the worst liar ever and people can tell by my face as I'm so bad. Hopefully no one will ever suspect due to the lack of interest in babies as previously said,
V xxx
I don't like people questioning me and I know they would if they knew we were ttc. Won't tell people I am pregnant until after 12 week scan when I get BFP this time. It was really special being mine and hubby's secret for so long last time! xxx
and id only tell people once we hit twelve weeks, such a scaredy cat!!
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