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Would it be too weird to say nothing?
How weird would it be to not announce my pregnancy and just announce the birth?
Both sets of parents and siblings know but they're under strict instructions not to let aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents know.????
Originally I'd reckoned I'd feel calmer after getting beyond 20weeks and feeling lots of movement, but then after the scan I've continued to panic. Our parents knew early on but I'd kept holding it from siblings and tbh if it hadn't been for my brother telling me that I was pregnant (he'd made a guess and decided it was fact lol!) then I'd probably still be holding it a secret from them too. I just keep putting off telling people and I'm not entirely sure why, I think I'm scared if I say it out loud it won't happen, I'm scared to get carried away with conversations of baby, all in all I'm just scared.
I'm now thinking either 30weeks so not long to wait but they've at least had some warning, BUT to be perfectly honest I'd quite like to wait until she's here safe and sound and I am thinking that would be way more exciting news than I'm pregnant anyway?????
My mum thinks people will be offended, my brother thinks they'll understand, my husband doesn't really care either way and I just can't decide anything at the moment!
What do you think? Would you be hurt? Would it be exciting? Aaaarrrggh!????
Thanks
Both sets of parents and siblings know but they're under strict instructions not to let aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents know.????
Originally I'd reckoned I'd feel calmer after getting beyond 20weeks and feeling lots of movement, but then after the scan I've continued to panic. Our parents knew early on but I'd kept holding it from siblings and tbh if it hadn't been for my brother telling me that I was pregnant (he'd made a guess and decided it was fact lol!) then I'd probably still be holding it a secret from them too. I just keep putting off telling people and I'm not entirely sure why, I think I'm scared if I say it out loud it won't happen, I'm scared to get carried away with conversations of baby, all in all I'm just scared.
I'm now thinking either 30weeks so not long to wait but they've at least had some warning, BUT to be perfectly honest I'd quite like to wait until she's here safe and sound and I am thinking that would be way more exciting news than I'm pregnant anyway?????
My mum thinks people will be offended, my brother thinks they'll understand, my husband doesn't really care either way and I just can't decide anything at the moment!
What do you think? Would you be hurt? Would it be exciting? Aaaarrrggh!????
Thanks
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I know exactly what you are saying and understand it but knowing your circumstances I was so thrilled and excited for you and I'm sure your rellies would be too! If you re worried about them getting overly excited could you ask a family member to pass on the good news but ask them to keeptheirvexcitement indet wraps until after the birth? Not sure if that's a solution at all but if they know what you been through they can share your excitement and hopefully respect your wishes to back off a bit ?
One of my close friends kept her 3rd pg from everyone except me! I live 400miles away from her, so I wouldn't see anyone to tell! Her fil guessed when she was 33 weeks! She is 6ft tall and at 40w just looked like she'd had a big dinner!
Her family were shocked but at the same time thrilled and excited. You have to do what you want to do and what is best for your little family (I have followed your story sorry nosey!!).
Good luck for rest of pg
xxx
I certainly wouldn't be offended if a close family member kept it a secret I think it makes it really special but then again I love suprises lol x
What is it that you fear if you do tell people? If it is the whole baby talk and, knitting and pressie then prehaps you could do what an earlier post said and get family to pass on the good news explaining how you'd like them to respond.
If something god forbid did happen, would you not tell/want any of these people to know? If so then yes perhaps you do wait until 30 wks / or the birth. But if yes, then I would consider telling people now.
How is LO speach now? Are you telling him? Is he likely to tell people?
Do you have any big family occassions such as weddings where you will all be getting together? These are all points to consider.
Ultimately it is up to you. I often find writing things down can help clarify what it is that Im thinking. x
I don't think I'll get another family member to say anything as that just sucks all the fun out of this pregnancy completely. I don't want to repeat second hand news!
I think I've left it so long I really like the idea of telling people at the finish line- I think it would be exciting in the same way hearing someones pregnant is exciting- it's just there won't be any 'will she won't she' involved.
I don't know I've still got way too much time left on my hands but for now I'll keep it to myself and just get through all this stress before I tell others.
IF something were to go wrong again (and I hope to god it won't) it's my mum who I'd lean on the most and she knows so I'm not too worried about that. Aaaarrrggh!
xxx