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Worried - Will hubby be allowed in the room the whole time??
My Dad's girlfriend has just really worried me.
She has told me that when her daughter in law gave birth at the same hospital I am going to, that because she wasn't in established labour her husband was kicked out of the room.
Has anyone else experienced this? I am really worried as I just assumed hubby would be there through the whole labour, I really want him to be there, if I am going through that pain I am going to feel vulenrable and would want my hubby there for support
I have suffered in the past with agoraphobia and socialphobia, I am better now but I feel in this situation I wont cope alone!!
She has told me that when her daughter in law gave birth at the same hospital I am going to, that because she wasn't in established labour her husband was kicked out of the room.
Has anyone else experienced this? I am really worried as I just assumed hubby would be there through the whole labour, I really want him to be there, if I am going through that pain I am going to feel vulenrable and would want my hubby there for support
I have suffered in the past with agoraphobia and socialphobia, I am better now but I feel in this situation I wont cope alone!!
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i think thats absolute rubbish as whether you are in established labour or not you will want bubby's support.
especially as your having twins.
if it really concerns you id call the hospital just to query it.
xx
I am hoping that even if this is the case he will be allowed in as its twins and things will be a little different but it has really unsettled me.
My ante natal classes start in september and we get a tour so hopefully I can ask this question first.
I can understand if you are in the ward early for high blood pressue or something like that but surely as soon as the contractions start hubby should be there whatever time it is!
I was induced and was 2-3 cm dialated when they started and oh was allowed to stay with me. They explained in the beginning though that if they had to start with the pessary (sp) to get things going oh had to go home at the end of the day and would be called back when things where moving along.
i think u will b fine & if u want your hubby there just both demand it your body your say!!
xx
Feeling a little less stressed about it this morning, will just have to make sure i stand up for myself if I feel i really need hubby there at the time xx
When you arrive at the hospital you should be examined and if they determine that you are in early labour (basically less than 4cm) then they will usually send you home. If you cannot travel for any reason or they feel that you may be at high risk then you are likely to be admitted onto the antenatal ward. This ward has normal visting hours and your OH will not be able to stay with you after about 9pm. However if you are in this situation you will probably be given pain relief (eg pethidine) and encouraged to sleep - as will your OH. You will be on a ward with other women so it is important for all of you to try and get some rest.
Once on the labour ward your OH will be able to stay with you all the time.
I don't know what advice you might be given since you are having twins. In our area very few women have twins by vaginal delivery. If the babies need monitoring right from the start you may be put on the labour ward but because of the extra risk you may be adviced to stay on ante-natal rather than go home. You should talk to your midwife about your concerns.
H xx
My labour was so incredibly long that I actually wish he had not been there at all, he was so very bored!!!
Next time I'm planning a VBAC as my labour ended in an emergency c-sec, and as I'm betting my labour will be long again, I'll only want my OH there when im in established labour.
As you're having twins it will no doubt be different hon. All the staff were lovely when I had lo and made me feel at ease though it was very hard to sleep on a ward.
They will be putting me on a Syntocinon infusion drip from stage 1 and I will be having an epidural so i guess things will be moving quite quickly for me.
Thanks for your messages girls, i feel more relaxed, if its just a case of him being kicked out as I will need to be resting etc. I guess I will be feeling OK so will be fine on my own, we only live 15 mins from the hospital so he wont be that far away either if he is sent home xx
Hope you're reassured after speaking to the consultant.