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Anyone else on number 2 and a bit scared?!
Hello!
Just wondering who else was on baby number two and feeling a bit scared?!
I am so happy about this pregnancy but also can't imagine trying to juggle a 18 month old and a new born!
xx
Just wondering who else was on baby number two and feeling a bit scared?!
I am so happy about this pregnancy but also can't imagine trying to juggle a 18 month old and a new born!
xx
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Yeah I'm on baby number two as well and already have a 22 month old, somedays I think it will be fine, but others like last night when DS was throwing a massive tantrum I do wonder lol! I'm sure we will be ok, we will need the patience of a saint, but we will be ok
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Fluffycatmiaow
6+4
You will be much calmer & prepared with No.2 as you have been a mummy before, you already know how to feed them, change them, clothe them & nurse them to sleep. It can be challenging for those first few weeks balancing feeding baby with entertaining toddler but you learn to adapt with a story book/jigsaw & then play properly whilst baby naps. You'll also find toddler has a natural curiosity & fascination by their new sibling so don't stop them getting involved, allow them to look/touch & 'help' by sorting nappies for you. You'll find it all falls naturally into place & most of your fears will come to nothing.
Thanks KazzieM for your input it's nice to hear from someonw who has already done it. I am sure you are right that it won't be as bad as we think it will!
This baby was very much planned but I also had the moment of OMG when the positive sign came up! DD1 had really bad collic to start with and although she is great now I do worry about a screaming baby all night and then having to get up and entertain a todler!
I am very much looking forward to getting the really bad sleeping stage out of the way ASAP
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I have a dd who is nearly three and a three week old. It is far, far easier in reality than I imagined. I think like PP said that you are so much more relaxed second time around, and in turn your baby is relaxed too.
The hardest thing is when they are both crying, like last night my dd1 was crying for her Daddy (at work) which set of dd2 and I was trying to settle them both..
Also the tiredess isnt as bad as the first time around.
When I had my dd1 I slept when she did but now when DD2 is sleeping Im playing or taking eldest to nursery etc but I'm not even tired. Probably used to lack of sleep I suppose.
All in all their are moments of hard work, but its worth it to have your children close together.
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On the plus side I think we will all be so much more confident with the second and hopefully our lo's will take to their little brothers/ sisters well!
I go through phases of sheer panic and then proper excitement!
Sometimes I worry that I will lose that special and close bond I have with my DS (he's also 22 months at mo) and that he'll become insanely jealous and resentful of his new brother or sister.
But then I think about how wonderful it'll be when we're a family of four - full of noise and excitement!
I'm going to try and prepare my DS for the new arrival as much as possible before October. I don't quite know how yet or even when to start but will probably wait until I'm really starting to show and DS is starting to ask questions.
Good luck to everyone else xxx
Don't worry too much. You Will cope. We all do. Some better than others but we get through it!
4+2 weeks (so early i am petrified)
I am still swinging from 'it will be fine, no problem' to 'arrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I will never sleep or sit down again!!'
Muffin34 - we will only have a 19 month gap - scary!
Hey All! I found this thread and it makes me feel (a little) better knowing I'm not alone. Here's my situation: I have an amazing 3-year-old little boy. He is my absolute everything. I am a stay-at-home mom and him and I are amazingly close. I can't describe our bond, but we're inseparable. I need him just as much as he needs me.
I just found out last week I'm pregnant with baby number 2. It happened all sooooo fast. And I am not excited about it yet. I'm only 4 weeks along and I am scared out of my mind. Not sleeping. Not eating. Crying on the spot. I honestly can't shake this feeling of dread.
I am just so worried about my little boy. How he will adapt to not having me all to himself. How he'll handle it when I'm in the hospital for a couple days (I have never left him at night and he still needs me to get him to sleep and won't sleep for anyone else). If you all can update how you all handled everything and stories about the kiddos now to help me cope, that'd be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much, mamas. I am so scared that I don't know what to do.
Omg this is exactly how I feel at the minute. Scared to death. How did you get on?