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work - called in sick, what do you think?
Hi ladies - your advice would be great please!
I called in sick on Friday as I was feeling sick and exhausted, plus getting twinges and was stressed about the day... it was our work xmas party that evening and I couldn't have felt less up for it. Also, they'd been dragging out the appraisal process for weeks - finally giving me my feedback on Thursday, saying I was doing a good job but was coming across as stressed. I realise I've been hormonal since coming off the Pill and since I've have the BFP I just have found it hard to concentrate at work.
Now I feel bad that I called in sick on Friday - I said I'd been sick in the night - but I know I did the right thing for myself and pregnancy. I just don't know whether or not to come clean to my boss, who probably thinks I skived after my appraisal feedback.
At the end of the day, I will not be going back to this job after the baby's born - we're moving away and anyway I couldn't do this job and parent as I hope to. However, I'd like to have good relations with work until I go on maternity. I am not expecting them to be very maternity-friendly but would it help if I'm up-front with them?
I'm a PA and 6+4. Got an early scan next Saturday and would prefer to wait until that before telling anyone. I'm feeling much better after taking it easy for a couple of days!
Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
xx
I called in sick on Friday as I was feeling sick and exhausted, plus getting twinges and was stressed about the day... it was our work xmas party that evening and I couldn't have felt less up for it. Also, they'd been dragging out the appraisal process for weeks - finally giving me my feedback on Thursday, saying I was doing a good job but was coming across as stressed. I realise I've been hormonal since coming off the Pill and since I've have the BFP I just have found it hard to concentrate at work.
Now I feel bad that I called in sick on Friday - I said I'd been sick in the night - but I know I did the right thing for myself and pregnancy. I just don't know whether or not to come clean to my boss, who probably thinks I skived after my appraisal feedback.
At the end of the day, I will not be going back to this job after the baby's born - we're moving away and anyway I couldn't do this job and parent as I hope to. However, I'd like to have good relations with work until I go on maternity. I am not expecting them to be very maternity-friendly but would it help if I'm up-front with them?
I'm a PA and 6+4. Got an early scan next Saturday and would prefer to wait until that before telling anyone. I'm feeling much better after taking it easy for a couple of days!
Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
xx
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Brilliant to hear the babe on xmas eve - hope it's a nice loud hb!! xx
I wouldnt worry Honey! Everyone gets ill around this time of year!
Im guessing you have had your scan now? How did it go?
Just to let you know, I worked in Recruitment and know that the minute u announce your pregnant there is nothing they can do! Even if your work quality goes right down, they cannot even discipline you as you are protected by every law as women were gettin penelised for being pregnant and now it has all had to change! So dont worry, I would let them know as soon as!! Also your work needs to do a risk assessment for you!
Hope this helps!!
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I'm desk-based so no major issues yet, although I intend to ask for a quietroom to relax in private at lunchtimes - there are meeting rooms usually available - do you think that sounds reasonable?
Thanks zozo! xx
Cheers xx
Good luck
Philippa
20+6 x x x x
next few months and there is very little your employer can do. Although I don't think we should encourage this(!) there are lots of bugs going around and it's easy to play iller than you are. Don't worry about it, there is very little they can do, even if they wanted to!! Hope you feel better soon. xx
i would def have time off next time too if i was ill as last time so dont worry esp as your bosses dont know xxx
i had 2 weeks off work with pregnancy related probs, i spoke to my boss before having time off and she wouldn't put me on lighter duties so from there on i put myself and bub first and didn't feel guilty at all.
i ended up putting in a complaint about my manager to my boss-which is his wife! lol and he couldn't apologise enough-considering i had a mc afew months earlier she really should have been more supportive- up until i got preg i thought they were the best bosses in the world-you may find a few peoples attitudes may change when you announce your happy news!!!! good luck