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upset,sick off people critazing me
hi,all. feel so upset, i could cry,i know im overreacting must be my hormoans, today i went to a family friends house with my mum, and this girl there asked me to hold her 8 week old baby,i did but was a little on edge has her 3 year old kept trying to pull and prode the little baby. i felt on edge and the baby mother wasent even hardly telling her 3 year off!
everyone kept saying god you look so scared,you cant be like this with your own and laughing at me!! i felt so so stupid! i know it will be diffrent with my own coz when my sister had a baby i did everything for hers and wasent scared off holding,bathing etc but i hardly no the women, and felt nervous.
feel so stupid for even feeling upset about such a little thing but everyone was really goin on at me, and then the baby stated crying on me and they was all saying ow look she dosent lke you,probley can sense that you cant handle babys very well! my mum turned around and said "yea well when hayley baby born,i will be down all the time showing her what to do!
im so worried now incase im hopeless! was in such a good mood yesterday from doing my baby nursery out aswell! sorry for goin on,just need to get it off my chest xxxxx
everyone kept saying god you look so scared,you cant be like this with your own and laughing at me!! i felt so so stupid! i know it will be diffrent with my own coz when my sister had a baby i did everything for hers and wasent scared off holding,bathing etc but i hardly no the women, and felt nervous.
feel so stupid for even feeling upset about such a little thing but everyone was really goin on at me, and then the baby stated crying on me and they was all saying ow look she dosent lke you,probley can sense that you cant handle babys very well! my mum turned around and said "yea well when hayley baby born,i will be down all the time showing her what to do!
im so worried now incase im hopeless! was in such a good mood yesterday from doing my baby nursery out aswell! sorry for goin on,just need to get it off my chest xxxxx
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I think it's natural for us first timers to worry- just shows how much we care for our LO's already and that we will make good mummies!
Hope you feel better soon xxx
I love babies and work with them loads but since being pregnant they suddenly freak me out a bit! I'm verye xcited about being pregnant and my own but sometimes it seems all so real when i'm around babies!
anyway sorry fro rambling there what i meant to say was of course you'll be fine with your own baby, you'll probably even look at other people holding him/her and think 'thats not the right way!'
don't let other people tease you, you'll be fab!
and well done on the nursery!!!
xxx
People tend to be so vocal when it comes to pregnancy & it is really starting to grate on me- it's your pregnancy no one else knows how you are feeling only yourself & this baby is your baby so don't let anyone tell you off or instruct you as to what you should be doing when it comes along.
I had someone telling me the other day that i'll be fine when my 'Mothering instinct' kicks in & I cracked up with him!
I used to be a real party girl out every weekend, always buying new clothes spending all my money on myself, smoking, going where I wanted when I wanted etc. but as soon as I found out I was pregnant it wasn't about me any more it was about my LO & now with under 5 weeks to go i have bought everything I can possibly buy, read all there is to read & cannot wait to hold this baby in my arms so if that isn't a mothering instinct then what is!
Sorry went off on a tangent there lol basically I know how you feel & it's awful that others are making you feel like this. It's only really at this stage in my pregnancy i've realised I can voice my opinion back just as easily so make sure you stick up for yourself in the future & trust your own instincts!
Lauren (35+1) xxx
How awful, that's an awful thing to do and say, people don't realise how things come across sometimes, don't you worry you will be absolutely fine, you will know and understand your LO more than anyone and you do whatever you want your way and don't let anyone tell you differently. Others will always have advice for you, listen to them and take what you choose and ignor what you want to.
Em x
I feel exactly the same about the babies too, my oh has a little cousin who is about 12 weeks now and we'd go round to see him. He is lovely and everything but he always whinges when I hold him & sicks up when I give him his bottle & I can't help feeling I have no idea about anything and am going to be a shit mum!
It doesn't help that my oh's mum is a childminder so he has already spent loads of time with babies and is brilliant with them, while I haven't got a clue...I feel like my baby will prefer him to me...I know that sounds sooo ridiculous. It seems unfair as my oh wanted me to get an abortion as well.
Arrrghhh really need to sort this out!
Sorry, this has turned into my own rant. I think you'll be fantastic - just trying to say your not alone hun! xxxxx
i spoke to my oh last night and he reasured me. we might not be perfect parents but we can only do our best. i will listnen to other people advice but gonna do what i feel right.
thanks again xxxx