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Nosey people!!!
Aaarrrgh i thought i'd escaped the nosy people as no one seems to comment on me, I must look really unapproachable but apparently not!
I went on the bus today, sat by this old man who said best of luck etc....very nice! And when he got off this busybody woman started talking to me. At first it was the usual not long left etc, boy or girl....fair enough...but then she started giving me way too much info into her personal life, tellin me that she was on the pill and doubted she would get pregnant now and anyway she was on the pill and had come on this morning (!!!!). I was like yea well you are about 50 love! (Though I didn't say that, I smiled politely and said "Oh right" as you do.) And then she asked me if it was PLANNED! (Is it just me, or is that rude??) She asked me my age (19) and when I told her she said "Oh my friends daughter is 19 and got pregnant, she had a miscarriage recently, it was for the best really, a blessing in disguise".
what?????
I must have said "oh right" and "yeah" and smiled about 1000 times, I felt like a nodding dog but what else can u do?!
I went on the bus today, sat by this old man who said best of luck etc....very nice! And when he got off this busybody woman started talking to me. At first it was the usual not long left etc, boy or girl....fair enough...but then she started giving me way too much info into her personal life, tellin me that she was on the pill and doubted she would get pregnant now and anyway she was on the pill and had come on this morning (!!!!). I was like yea well you are about 50 love! (Though I didn't say that, I smiled politely and said "Oh right" as you do.) And then she asked me if it was PLANNED! (Is it just me, or is that rude??) She asked me my age (19) and when I told her she said "Oh my friends daughter is 19 and got pregnant, she had a miscarriage recently, it was for the best really, a blessing in disguise".
what?????
I must have said "oh right" and "yeah" and smiled about 1000 times, I felt like a nodding dog but what else can u do?!
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Not long now Chick - how are you feeling?
Denise, that's awful - seems you can never be the "right age". Some people are really insensitive, its like they assume loads of bad stuff is going to happen. Whenever I saw a pregnant woman I just assumed she was happy and would never ask any questions apart from whens it due! xxx
I think the woman was rude too - it's not what you need!
Hope this makes you feel better and I don't express it wrongly, but I always thought you were much older than 19 - you always sound so experienced and confident on here - I'm 32 and a nervous wreck and don't have much of a clue about anything babywise I suppose what I'm trying to say is it doesn't matter how old you are as long as it's the right time for you (not some nosy old woman on the bus lol!). x x x
I know nothing about babies either, in fact I'm totally paranoid I'm going to do everything wrong! I think we are all the same! xxx
arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
shaz xxxxxxx
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some people just dont seem happy unless they are sticking their beaks in where they are not wanted. And they delight in making little comments designed to irritate/worry/annoy/upset others, then if you get angry and retaliate they are all ' oh no dear, thats not what I meant, you just took it wrong' etc etc!!! They are the type of people who would go and watch a public stoning, front row centre!
Hope I can be as polite as you if and when my turn for the unwanted comments come! :x
With my last pregnancy I got really huge very quickly so whenever a nosey person asked when I was due I'd answer 'yesterday' then act like I was getting a labour pain - you should see the expression of panic on people's faces! It is so funny - go on try it! Especially if you are on the bus and you go over a bump in the road. Or am I just evil?
Denise xx
Denise - ur def not evil....that is genius!!!
Sarah xx
And they would stop making comments to everyone when they realised noone was listening!!
xx
The most recent charming anecdote was from a work colleague who told me about (no word of a lie) her neighbours-friends-son (!!), whose wife and child had died during the labour. The weirdest thing was that I wasn't even having a conversation about babies with her - in fact I wasn't talking at all! She seemed to bustle into the office just full of excitement to tell me all about it.
You can try to analyse it but some people are just odd!!!
And Sarah, I agree with that. Some people are just bloody cuckoo! How someone can discuss their menstrual cycle with a random woman on the bus is beyond me. But apparently they do. lol.
I keep getting the 'ready to drop' comments too, but I think that's fair enough, as I am! xxx