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So scared of SIDS!!
Hey girls
I am writing to get my feelings out cos its driving me mad!! I have an 8 week old little girl and I am worried every second of every day that she is going to die of SIDs. It is taking over my life, so much that despite my exhaustion, I cannot sleep.
I know that the chances are pretty slim but I am in a complete panic about it. I follow all the guidelines and neither me or my partner are smokers but still I cannot stop fretting. I tried to talk to my partner about it and he said I was being pathetic and I need to chill out-maybe he is right but I cannot help it!!
Thanks for listening
I am writing to get my feelings out cos its driving me mad!! I have an 8 week old little girl and I am worried every second of every day that she is going to die of SIDs. It is taking over my life, so much that despite my exhaustion, I cannot sleep.
I know that the chances are pretty slim but I am in a complete panic about it. I follow all the guidelines and neither me or my partner are smokers but still I cannot stop fretting. I tried to talk to my partner about it and he said I was being pathetic and I need to chill out-maybe he is right but I cannot help it!!
Thanks for listening
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Debs x
Was so sad but there is really nothing you can do to prevent it. Is heartbreaking, the chances are slim but it does happen. I felt so guilty when I found out because I have always been really lax with my LO, havnt got a monitor etc, obviously make sure he is safe but never particularly worried about it. It is utterly inconceivable to me that my LO would not be here one day and I find it hard to talk to her about Jacob. There really is no answer, just comes out of the blue. But the advice my friend gave me was not to worry too much because that wont stop it, and to enjoy every second you have with your child. They are the most precious thing ever.
Sorry to be doom and gloom x
All the guidelines are there to make sure the baby is constantly getting fresh oxygen so that the brain doesnt tell the lungs to stop. For example - dont use a cot bumper so that air can circulate the crib/cot, put baby at the foot of the cot so they cant wriggle under the covers or use the sleeping bags, make sure they dont get too hot, make sure room is well ventilated, use a dummy, put baby to sleep on back and make sure they sleep on firm bedding eg not a beanbag as they could bury their face in it. Also use cellular blankets as if they pull it over their face they can breathe through the holes.
I know its hard but try not to worry too much.
Were really pleased with it )
Edited to say SID's scare me too, Faye's routine at night sometimes varies and if she sleeps longer than normal I'm waking up wondering why she hasn't woken to feed and checking her so I don't ever benefit from these 'nice nights'
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[Modified by: MrsT on March 08, 2009 09:49 PM]
You must try and stop worrying though honey. Its going to do you no good, as sadly there is nothing you can do to prevent SIDS. Its just a very unfortunate and very unlucky thing to happen.
You're not being pathetic though. Its perfectly natural to feel the way you do.
xxxxx
Thanks for your support xx