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Hello everyone!
I just wanted to say hello, as I'm new here and I've never posted before (anywhere!). I've been looking at the site for a while and it looks like there are some very friendly and helpful people and I think you will probably understand how I feel.
My husband and I have been TTC for a year now and I'm 38. My first appointment for tests at docs is Friday and J goes to hospital tomorrow for his. However, I am feeling really low today as we went out for my works dinner last night and met my ex (I met my husband and married him v. quickly, but I was seeing this other guy for several years before that). My ex and his new wife are pregnant and it was obviously a honeymoon baby. I am trying to be happy for them (and I am!), but it was actually quite hard not to be jealous. Well, actually I should say it shouldn't I? I AM jealous. We have been trying so hard for so long and I am beginning to think it won't happen. I wouldn't swap my husband for the world, but I do feel like a failure. Any positive thoughts anyone?
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My husband and I have been TTC for a year now and I'm 38. My first appointment for tests at docs is Friday and J goes to hospital tomorrow for his. However, I am feeling really low today as we went out for my works dinner last night and met my ex (I met my husband and married him v. quickly, but I was seeing this other guy for several years before that). My ex and his new wife are pregnant and it was obviously a honeymoon baby. I am trying to be happy for them (and I am!), but it was actually quite hard not to be jealous. Well, actually I should say it shouldn't I? I AM jealous. We have been trying so hard for so long and I am beginning to think it won't happen. I wouldn't swap my husband for the world, but I do feel like a failure. Any positive thoughts anyone?
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there is no way on earth that you are a failure, your time will definitely come soon! I read on several internet sites that it can take the average healthy couple a year to conceive, so you're not unusual.
(((((Hugs))))) babydust and loads of PMA!!!! xxx
Thanks for all the good wishes. It is so nice to talk to people about this. We haven't told anyone we are trying as we don't want to add to the pressure - so THANKS SO MUCH!!
Welcome to BE. Good luck with the tests, I'm sure everything will go just fine for you.
Oh and I'm with Trixie, I have days where I completely feel jealous of any poor random pregnant lady/new mum I see
Do let us know how you get on with the appointments x
Good luck to you & your hubby with your hospital appts, I hope everything is in working order...I echo other poster's comments that it can take an average couple upto a year to conceive, so you aren't out of the ordinary.
Good luck and I hope you get a BFP soon xx