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Hi ladies, I have just found out today that I have miscarried at 6 wks. I'm devastated but I'm trying not to dwell on it or I will never get out of bed.
When is it safe to ttc again? Do I count this bleed as a normal period? I'm sorry if I'm asking silly questions, but any help or advice would be great
Thanks xx
When is it safe to ttc again? Do I count this bleed as a normal period? I'm sorry if I'm asking silly questions, but any help or advice would be great
Thanks xx
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On the ttc front, there are many different opinions as to when it is ok to start again. I think it is all up to the individual. Most doctors tell you to wait for one normal period before trying again (I think for dating purposes), but then lots of ladies on here have said their midwives told them there was no need to even wait that long. Other sources (such as BE) say to wait 2-3 months to ensure your uterus has healed and is ready for another egg to implant. For my part, straight after the mmc I wanted to start trying again asap, but in the end have waited 3 months, which I think has done me the world of good. Although I still have my down days, they are much more infrequent than they were in September and now I feel positive about a future pregnancy. I think if I had fallen pg immediately after the mmc (even though I desperately wanted to be pg again) I would have been a complete wreck. Now I feel stronger and ready to handle the emotions another pregnancy will bring.
Whatever you decide, give yourself time and space to grieve for your little angel.
I had my ectopic in September and I really know how you are feeling, as do all the ladies on here. They originally thought i'd mc and I wanted to try immediately again.
In fact I had to wait 3 months because of my treatment. I've got another month to go but feel like i'm ready now. I needed some time as I couldn't have handle it if it had happened again so quickly after.
Be kind to yourself and how ever you are feeling go with it. I went through feelings up deep upset, anger, fear and back to total unhappiness and it was the only way I could cope with it.
Big gentle hugs x x x
I've to go back to the doctors tomorrow for test results, do you mind me asking what treatment you have had to get? To be honest needing treatment hadn't even crossed my mind xx
With very early miscarriages I think they normally pass naturally. I think if you are a bit further on you would have needed medical treatment.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. Was it your first pregnancy?
I totally understand you want to try again staright away, I did too. I personally (although didn't feel like this at the time) feel I needed time to sort my emotions and feelings out as I was, and still am, devestated at what happened to me.
This forum has been a godsend x x
Helenlouise, oh hun I'm so sorry, I know how worried your feeling, it's an awful feeling that you can do nothing but wait. I really pray that it's nothing serious for you, please keep me posted xx
I am hopeful that the new year will bring the our much wanted babies and also give us time to come to terms with the loss of our little ones x x
I'm so sorry that you and your OH are having to go through this. I know only too well what you are going through - I too mc at 6 weeks 3 weeks ago, and luckily mine all passed narurally. I too have found this forum to be great in supporting me - I've been on an emotional rollercoaster, sometimes feeling positive, others devastated, then angry and then blaming myself. I know it doesn't mean anything at the moment, but time really is a healer. I've also found that telling people has helped, I've just taken it a bit at a time.
Some people find taking time off work helps, but tbh I've found work to be a healer - it helps to take my mind off things.
Just to pre warn you, people will say a variety of things to try and help you, and you may find this make you angry rather than comforting. TBH, this IMO is normal, it's just something that we need to go through.
Please try and use us as much as you can hun, I'm sure it will help you, even if it's just to rant, I've found it immensley helpful.
Sending you my love and lots of hugs
xxx