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So upset with family
My sister has to get out her place by tomorrow. Mum has a whole loft extensiob sis could use but mum has said no she cant stay as she might lose her social money. So today my sis and her two kids are moving into ours. There will be 5 kids and 3 adults in a 3bed semi. We arent sure on logistics yet but i cant see her on streets.
Im so angry at mum. H is furious and refuses to have her in houae again. How can you do that yo your kids?
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That's awful, she's lucky to have a great sister like you willing to take her in even without the space, hope she is ok
I'd be furious at your mum too
Oh no. Family can be so rubbish. If we weren't related to them, we wouldn't have to bother with them at all. :-(
I hope things start to get sorted put quickly and you all get some good things happening soon x
That's awful. I just cannot imagine what is going through your mother's mind??? Even worse that she's doing it to her grandkids too. How long will your sister be with you, sounds like a really tight squeeze.
Oh no your poor sister. That's so good of you to make space for them though, hope it all works out.
Belle, how sh!t for your sister and how selfish of your mam, I can't believe any mother wouldn't bend over backwards to help her daughter and grandaughters.
Good for you though, it will be cramped but I'm sure you will manage, hopefully it won't be for too long x
Belle, that's incredibly selfish. I think you are a gem for stepping in and helping out your sister despite not having much space for them.
How awful of your mum, so selfish just to think of herself when your sister is in such need. You're so lovely for helping her out xx
Goodness me Belle, that is awful. NO wonder you are upset and D is angry. Thank god she has you x
My Mum wouldn't have my Sisters live with her, but then they have caused no end of trouble for her over the years.
When I left my H, she let me and my boys stay for 3 months.
Lovely of you to help her out Belle.
I had wodda with mum last night and she kept making it about her. How Im making her look bad. No its not about you. Its about them.
I need to call our local housing and get her on list. She's hoping to get two months rent together and get housing benefit for a place.
Poor girl, does she work? x
Ah that's really harsh of your mum to say no.
Can she claim homelessness? I thought they put people up in a hostel or hotel type place and sort them a home pretty quickly. My sister has help with financial costs of renting so could find out how that works if you need me to.
Thank god she has you. I also couldn't see any of my family on the street x
that's terrible, no wonder you're angry with your mum. Your sister is lucky to have a sister like you. It'll be tough fitting everyone in, but you'll manage.
Yep sis works which is making things difficult. If she claimed benefits she would be better off! Claiming homelessness takes weeks. I've spoken with boroughs this am. Its shocking.
Poor her. Hope that she manages to get something sorted soon
Cheers hon.
How *** is that? Good for you helping her out x
Your poor sister, lucky she has you to help her out.
It may be worth speaking to the council about her finding a privately rented place herself and claiming housing benefit - often they can sort out the housing benefit quicker if a property has been found by the applicant then them finding a property to put her in the kids in
On it already ferbs in her borough and mine. Appointment made for 2 weeks for my borough but her borough are happy for her ro receive a deposit bond if she can find somewhere to accept it. Need to see how much housing benefit is as that makes difference to what she can afford to rent.
If you phone your local authority's housing benefit department they should have a general enquiries line. The housing benefit officers on there will be able to do a manual calculation to work out what her entitlement to HB and CTB would be. That's what I do for a job.