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Will it happen?
Hi i used to come on here back in March but havnt been on for a while because i have been really stressed. I just wanted your opinions and maybe experiences. I have three children already aged 7, 4 and 2. I desperately wanted another and we started trying last August. I fell pregnant in November but unfortunately lost the baby by a missed miscarriage in Feb. we have been trying since but with no luck. I am starting to think it will never happen and am worried about my age, I will be 34 in September and I know a lot of websites say 35 is when it starts getting really hard to conceive. Has anyone had any similar experiences, it is really getting me down and i am starting to think perhaprs this is it and I wont have anymore. I know how lucky I am to already have three, people seem to constantly be telling me that at the moment but I really feel that one more would complete the family. Should i start facing the reality that time is catching me up?
Sorry to be all gloom and doom, i dont feel I can talk to anyone about this as they all think I should be content as i am
Thanks
Jacqui
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Sorry to be all gloom and doom, i dont feel I can talk to anyone about this as they all think I should be content as i am
Thanks
Jacqui
xx
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Personally for me, 4 completed my family too and I am so glad I did get a wonderful no'4 suprise lol.
I also had many, many comments about "why do you want another ?" or "how will I cope?" and "isnt 3 enough?" But do you know what? I really do not care what they say or said any more, my ds2 ( 4th) is the most wonderful gift I could have asked for. I am so very lucky to have 2 boys and 2 girls now..my children are my life, my heart and I glow with love for them every day. Sod what others think!!
In regards to your age, No I dont think 30+ is too old or that you should worry about time ticking and your fertility etc. After you loss in Feb, maybe your body is just taking time to heal and when you least expect it mother nature will most definatly bless you with no'4.
I would just say, relax, give it a little more time, dont ttc so seriously just b'dance for fun. And look after yourself.
Goodluck, lots of large family baby dust floating your way, go jump on your hubby and get jiggy lol lol
(((((((Hugs for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx)))))))))
Take care
Jacqui
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Good luck with ttc No.4 hunnie, it will happen, and fingers crossed its very soon! Enjoy the baby dancing and keep us informed!!
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Hi Mummymog, that is great to hear that you have had two children after 35, there is so much out there about how it is harder for 'older' mums and I got myself so worked up that it isnt going to happen. I know I need to chill out about it.
I think I am having a mid life crisis in general, I HATE the fact I am nearly 34. Thing is it only feels like yesterday I was 24, doesnt time fly.
Thanks so much for all of your support
Jacqui
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