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am i selfish?

FunshineFunshine
in Labour & birth
i have had 3 babies all by section dd1-4 dd2-3 and dd3- 7months, when i was pg with dd3 i wanted a vbac2 by was advised against as i have never actually gone into labour and baby was measuring big, i said to my consultant that i didnt want to ruin my chances of having a 4th child, and she said it was ok to have a 4th dependant on the amount of internal scarring, in my note my last consultant (who had done my first 2 sections) had written that during second section scarring was very minimal, so she said that was definatly an advantage!
whilst delivering dd3 consultant said that scarring was still minimal and i was a good candidate for a 4th section, but i feel i may be being selfish as i have 3 healthy beautiful girls and i have recovered better each time i have had an operation but i am scarred if something was to go wrong as now i have 3 girls who need me so much! Am i being selfish in wanting another or am i being over parinoid, no point taking to my gp as he is very 3 section max end of!! We only wanted 4 so hubby would be getting the snip after a 4th, what do you ladies think???
xx sam xx

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    Ems101Ems101
    If consultants say its ok, i would go with the GPs tend to play it too safe sometimes as obviously its not their speciality. Id do it personally!!

    Em x
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    SamdanielSamdaniel
    Hi,
    I have not been on here in ages, but thought I should put a reply. My husband and I have decided to try for baby number 3. We have two beautiful boys - aged 5 years and 2 years 5 months. Both were born by emergency c-section, the first got stuck at 6cm, the second was showing distress at 2 cm. It has taken us alot to decide on trying for a third, we thought about adoption but decided to try for a baby instead. I have been so worried about what sort of delievery I would have to have, I would love to try for a vbac, but not too sure if it would be allowed although I healed really well after both cs.
    I don't think your being selfish, I think your being brave, and if the consultant who did the operations said you were fine I would go with their judgement.
    Fingers crossed for you that it all works out fine.
    Sam.
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    piggypopspiggypops
    hello there

    i would say the consultant knows a lot more about your body than the gp and its them you need to have on your side, i would go for it if that what you both want x
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    katieceve1katieceve1
    You're not being selfish at all in my opinion. I've had 3 children by c section - 2 girls 15 and 7 and a boy who is 10 weeks. We had said that our 3rd child would be our last but I don't want to say never again as it makes it sound so final. I was told that if I decided to have another one it would be possible. Your consultant will know a lot more than your gp as he deals with these things every day. xxx
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    WoWbabiesWoWbabies
    i would say GPs know a little bit about all subjects, but ur consultant is the specialist in this area so will know alot more about it than ur gp. if both u, ur OH and ur consultant are happy for u to have another baby then i see no reason why u shouldn't, the gp is probably going by the old 'rule' that 3 sections max, as they won't keep up with all the changes to the procedures and policies like ur consultant would, hth xx 28+2
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