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birth with shoulder dystocia
hi
my big boy(10lb 6oz) got stuck during the birth. His head was delivered 5 minutes before he was born. It was called shoulder dystocia its where he gets his shoulders stuck. as a result his chest was being crushed and as he had gasped for air he was then un able to breath. they had to cut me to be able to get him out. Basically when they cut me they said it was so they could see where he was stuck and maybe release him. luckily this is what happened and he was born and revived and sent straight to ICU with a very low survival chance. after 12 hours he pulled all his tubes out and started breathing on his own.
If That sound bad i was told that it could have been a lot worse.
If he didnt come out when he did they would have broken his collar bone to collapse his shoulders so he could come out.
If that didnt work they would have put me under and pushed him back in with a chance of drowning and losing me too.
All i really remeber about the whole thing is pushing like i had never pushed before in panic more than any thing, then the midwife pushing the panic button and loads of people coming out of no where. doctors surgeon, midwifes, nurses, incubator, resusiter( cos there wasnt one in my room as i was in a pre labour asesment room as delivery suit was over ful)
I kept saying he is stuck he is not coming out. Then they said they will have to cut me. so i asked for a local and they said no sorry - got the scissors and just snipped(my husband was nearly sick at this point)
my husband thought he was going to loose both of us. and i just kept saying is he alright but nobody would say anything. even 3/4 weeks afterward i had a bruise on my stomach and internally on my stomach where one midwife was physically trying to push him out
He is fine now other than having a dairy allergy. He is fit and well.
I keep thinking about it and thinking what if? I know i shouldnt but i do. any one else had the same problems at birth. apparently it vary rare.
my big boy(10lb 6oz) got stuck during the birth. His head was delivered 5 minutes before he was born. It was called shoulder dystocia its where he gets his shoulders stuck. as a result his chest was being crushed and as he had gasped for air he was then un able to breath. they had to cut me to be able to get him out. Basically when they cut me they said it was so they could see where he was stuck and maybe release him. luckily this is what happened and he was born and revived and sent straight to ICU with a very low survival chance. after 12 hours he pulled all his tubes out and started breathing on his own.
If That sound bad i was told that it could have been a lot worse.
If he didnt come out when he did they would have broken his collar bone to collapse his shoulders so he could come out.
If that didnt work they would have put me under and pushed him back in with a chance of drowning and losing me too.
All i really remeber about the whole thing is pushing like i had never pushed before in panic more than any thing, then the midwife pushing the panic button and loads of people coming out of no where. doctors surgeon, midwifes, nurses, incubator, resusiter( cos there wasnt one in my room as i was in a pre labour asesment room as delivery suit was over ful)
I kept saying he is stuck he is not coming out. Then they said they will have to cut me. so i asked for a local and they said no sorry - got the scissors and just snipped(my husband was nearly sick at this point)
my husband thought he was going to loose both of us. and i just kept saying is he alright but nobody would say anything. even 3/4 weeks afterward i had a bruise on my stomach and internally on my stomach where one midwife was physically trying to push him out
He is fine now other than having a dairy allergy. He is fit and well.
I keep thinking about it and thinking what if? I know i shouldnt but i do. any one else had the same problems at birth. apparently it vary rare.
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Try to get some counselling as it may help you to work your feelings and fears out.
Take care xx
I agree with Hayley, I think it would really help if you could speak to your health visitor or gp and get some counselling.
I think it sounds like you were incredibley brave and you both were lucky to come away well. I agree you need some counselling and to have a birth review to see what went wrong and why. Also, you need it on your records so that your next baby can be induced early or a c section
Hope you get well soon
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