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Mrs_Barnes · Aug 20, 2008 11:59AM

I had a miscarriage last week and I have only just plucked up the courage to face it and say we have lost our baby, it was due on Mother's Day. On Mother's Day next year we won't be holding a bundle, we won't be breathing in that gorgeous smell and dressing it in dinky clothes

My husband and I are in the process of going through the 5 stages of grief. We have passed through Stage 1 Denial we are now passing through Stage 2 into Stage 3 Anger and Depression.

The Doctor said I have a problem carrying past 7 weeks and if we do get pregnant again I will need to see him asap and go under the care of a specialist for extra monitoring, scans and tests.

Last Friday I booked a last minute break to Torquay and on Saturday we went to the harbour, threw lilies into the sea and said a prayer of goodbye. It seems to have helped a bit that we have said goodbye but I am still a bit angry and I guess that is normal but how do alcoholics, druggies and other people that don't want babies have a baby?? We are good Christians, we eat healthily, I smoke very little and we don't drink. I must say my faith is being seriously tested to the limit but I have faith in God that everything must happen for a reason right??? $:\$ ?

Sorry for my ranting and rambling, I am facing another sleepless night, thoughts whirring around my brain trying to come to terms with it all, hubby is upstairs sleeping (through sheer exhaustion)
And to top it all off we are moving into our new home this weekend, we have found a new place to rent, too much drama has happened in this house (I refuse to call it a home any more) I don't feel comfortable here.

I had to delete my old membership as Mrs.Barnes due to my silly laptop wouldn't let me delete my babies due date and it was tearing me apart every time I logged in so I am under the same name with a new membership.

I hope to get to know you all on this forum and my thoughts and prayers go out to everyone and I hope I haven't annoyed anyone with my honest comments

Dolina xx xx

sianelfr · Aug 15, 2008 9:56AM

hey dolina

i am so sorry for your loss. it is such an awful time but i promise that things will get better. you have to just take each day as it comes and keep talking to your husband and support each other in any way that you can.

i do agree with what you say about others having babies when they don't really want them. in the school where i teach there are 3 girls aged 14-15 who are pg and none of them are taking care of themselves - all still drinking, smoking etc. and it really winds me up. it's not fair. life isn't fair. all we can do is support each other and hope that our next little ones will be sticky.

take it easy, honey. xxx

tillyjayne · Aug 15, 2008 6:38PM

I'm sorry for your loss hun,hope you start to feel better soon. take care of yourself and just take every day as it comes. xxxx:\)

MITZI · Aug 16, 2008 7:48AM

misscarriage is a cruel thing that happens in life, its something that happens to everyone, you can ask yourself why over and over again, you can say why do the druggies etc get pregnant when they dont want them and mine has left that little sacred place called home for what should of been 9 months, but if your a christian like you say you are you will know the term god give us and god take away, life can be tragic sometimes, but dont dewell on misscarriage get back on that horse and keep trying as they say new home new baby wishing you all the best for the future

K-lou · Aug 20, 2008 6:11AM

OMG honey I am so so so sorry to hear this. I was looking for you on here the otehr day to find out how you are. I truly am sorry and I will say a little pray for you and your OH.

I can't say anything that will make it better but here is a huge hun and you have my email address if you would like to talk.

K xxx

mrsLL · Aug 20, 2008 11:59AM

Hi there - i remember you from the TTC forum - as a number of ladies here have said - it will - over time - get easier - although probably doesnt feel that way right now - i am soo sorry this happened to you - but as the other ladies have said - you cannot dwell as it does no good - you need (when you are ready) to get your PMA again and move on ...sorry if that sounds a little harsh or insensitive but it is the advise i can give after going through this myself ..the one thing you realise on this site is just how common misscarraige is - that is not to trivialise what you are going through or feeling - but to give you hope for the future

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