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Unplanned pregnancy, unwanted miscarriage
Hi there. I'ma newbie. Came here from the YAWY website. On there I'm youngbride.
Anyways, about September last year I found out that I was pregnant. It was completely unplanned but me and my fiance were thrilled! We started planning for a baby in our life right away. Both of us were so happy. So much love.
Then it all started crumbling and crashing down. I miscarried at about 8 weeks.
It was horrible. My h2b won't talk to me about it. He just shuts me out and says "Of course it hurts me"
I just really need to talk about it. It's so hard for me to let go. I was only carrying our baby for a little while, but I feel like I've lost so much. I keep thinking about holding a little one, soft and safe. Being a proper family.
My h2b's ex girlfriend had an abortion when he had really wanted the baby, and it adds to it. I wanted to be able to give him the child that he longs for.
I keep crying all the time. Wishing I was pregnant. Wishing so much that we had a baby already.
Just need a little support.
We are going to start TTC after our wedding, but I wish it was now. Right now.
Anyways, about September last year I found out that I was pregnant. It was completely unplanned but me and my fiance were thrilled! We started planning for a baby in our life right away. Both of us were so happy. So much love.
Then it all started crumbling and crashing down. I miscarried at about 8 weeks.
It was horrible. My h2b won't talk to me about it. He just shuts me out and says "Of course it hurts me"
I just really need to talk about it. It's so hard for me to let go. I was only carrying our baby for a little while, but I feel like I've lost so much. I keep thinking about holding a little one, soft and safe. Being a proper family.
My h2b's ex girlfriend had an abortion when he had really wanted the baby, and it adds to it. I wanted to be able to give him the child that he longs for.
I keep crying all the time. Wishing I was pregnant. Wishing so much that we had a baby already.
Just need a little support.
We are going to start TTC after our wedding, but I wish it was now. Right now.
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its such an awful thing to go through.
i had a mmc at 8.5 weeks but didn't find out until i was 12 weeks. i think about my baby most of the time and just really want to be pregnant again.
my hubbie and i laid some flowers in a place that was sprcial to us and we also bought a special ring to remind us of our baby. Have you done anything to remeber your baby by?
It helps to bring something positive out of a horrible situation.
If you ever want to chat then I'm on msn.
hope your ok
take care
xx
ps i wasa young bride too!!
I was like you all I could think was - when can we try for another - but we agreed that as wanted as the baby was it was a very bad time - financially etc and we would leave it 6 months and see how we felt. It was a good decision - in those six months he proposed and we started planning our wedding - we moved house (the rose came with us) and now 18 months on - we are married, financially in a much better place - in a house big enough for 3 and I am 29 weeks pregnant. I am a big believer in fate and that some things happen for a reason.
I will always remember the baby we lost but with time I have accepted it and now I can look forward to a new baby. Time is a great healer - give yourselves chance to grieve and then move on together.
You'll get there and when you do it will be even more special.
Good luck
Lianne x
I think having a special thing to remember him by would help me to move on.
Thank you ladies x