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which option to choose....... any help appreciated.
Hi all,
i wonder if you could help me. Ive basically been told today that ive had a miscarraige but i have to go back for another next week, this will be the third scan. They will then be in a position to officially say its a miscarraige. At that point i need to make my decision. Naturally, medically or surgically.
I was wondering what options you chose,would you recomend that option and what was your recovery time?
Just a little bit about me, my first child was stillborn at 25weeks in july i bled for 10 weeks. I found out i was pregnant again at xmas and sadly this isnt ment to be. Im not sure if i could go through the narural option or medical on the other hand i dont like the idea of the surgical.
Any info or thoughts you could give would be great.
Thanks x
i wonder if you could help me. Ive basically been told today that ive had a miscarraige but i have to go back for another next week, this will be the third scan. They will then be in a position to officially say its a miscarraige. At that point i need to make my decision. Naturally, medically or surgically.
I was wondering what options you chose,would you recomend that option and what was your recovery time?
Just a little bit about me, my first child was stillborn at 25weeks in july i bled for 10 weeks. I found out i was pregnant again at xmas and sadly this isnt ment to be. Im not sure if i could go through the narural option or medical on the other hand i dont like the idea of the surgical.
Any info or thoughts you could give would be great.
Thanks x
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I had a bit of spotting at nine weeks a scan showed there was no heartbeat but they like you asked me to come back in a week so they could confirm! I opted for medical option as after the week I still hadn't started to bleed and I felt like I was hanging in limbo! Ask as mean questions as you can when you go back ask what they think your best option would be! I had a lovely midwife who said if you were my daughter this is what I'd suggest you do and it kind of put my mind at rest and made me feel at ease!
If you want to know any more just ask I don't kind answering any questions x
I had a natural miscarriage this timelast year which lasted about a week, I was only about 6 weeks.
I then suffered my second mc at 12 weeks, they realised baby had stopped growing at 9 1/2 weeks.
In my honest opinion I would recommend the surgery, this is what I did as I didnt want to feel any pain and wanted it to be over with. I bled for about a week afterward and got my first AF a month later - although they are quite heavy now I know it was the best decision for me to take.
With what you have been through previously only you can decide if you can do that again.....take your time to think about it and you will decide what is right and all the girls are here if you need to chat more.
Love
Joy
xxx
I found out on the 21st december after some spotting that my bean had stopped growing at 6 weeks I was 10 weeks or should have been. As everything was so small and smaller than expected they made me have a repeat scan a week later. At that scan nothing had changed but I'd had no further spotting and it looked like my body wasn't going to work it out. I decided to opt for medical management as I didn't want a general anaesthetic and I didn't want to wait for it to happen naturally.
I went back 29th december to take the tablets, had those in hospital then went home. By the time I'd got home I'd started to lightly bleed, and about 3 hours later the cramping started which lasted about 2.5 hours (they sent me home with co-codamol). After that I passed everything and bled heavily, for me it came in floods which the pads couldn't cope with, but the doctor had warned me it might happen that way. After 2 hours of heavy heavy bleeding things settled down to a heavy period type bleed and I'm now 2 weeks on and I just have brown discharge that is managed with panty liners. I have to do a repeat preg test tomorrow and hopefully it will be negative, if its a positive it means that some placenta has been left behind and I'll have to go back.
Sorry if that was too much information, I've tried to be honest. Its not pleasant but it was the right choice for me. You really need to be prepared for the bleeding and obviously you will be aware and maybe even seeing what you are passing. If you can cope with that then you'll be fine. If you'd rather not see or be an active part of whats happening then surgical is the way forward.
So sorry again for your losses.
kish x
I hope that doesnt sound bad of me or harsh as it isnt meant to, I just think you have been through so much already with your previous loss that mentally this will help you, but only you can make that decision.
good luck with whatever you decide and all us girls are here for you whenever you need us
xx
it is hard enough to come to terms with losing a baby no matter how far along you are, I hope that all goes as well as it can do and take your time.
thinking of you
xxx
I opted for the surgical management and had the surgery yesterday. I definatly this it was the best option for me. I do feel like ive been hit with a truck today but ill be fine soon.
Thank you all for your support xx
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this, especialy after losing your baby earlier in the year, life is just too cruel sometimes. At least now you've had the op you can try and get your body back together quicker than maybe any of the other two options would have allowed. After my first I bled for 3 weeks but the pain only lasted a day or so. With my second I think I only bled for about a week, I forget now as I tried to put it out of my mind but i'm sure it wasn't as long as the first. My periods came back pretty much straightaway, I wonder if this was down to the fact i'd had the op. Anyway, hopefully your body will get back to normal, just relax over the next few days now. You've been through a horrible ordeal so make sure someone is waiting on you hand and foot for a while.
Again, i'm so so sorry for your losses xx
Im quite positive at the moment so im hoping pma sticks around for a bit xx
wishing you luck for the future
xx