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just when I thought this year couldn't get any worse update
anyone else just wishing 2009 would end? this has been the worst year of my life. in january my friend was in a really bad car crash, nearly died, was in a coma 5 weeks and hospital 7months. in may my grandad died. the funeral was day after my birthday, so spent birthday travelling to scotland for the funeral. in aug got BFP, in Sept MC'd. 2 weeks after MC my friend killed himself. last week was at a funeral for a family friend who was only 55.
now today I've just found out my cousin is in intensive care after falling 6 storeys. they don't know if he was trying to kill himself or maybe on drugs. he's had his spleen removed but is still bleeding internally. when asked if spine was ok apparently docs said his legs are moving so they think so but that's the least of their worries at the moment! And he's malaysian, so I can't go to visit him.
Every time I start to feel better something else awful happens. How much bad luck can one family possibly have in a year? Everything just seems so unfair at the moment. I wish I could just wake up and it'd be new years day and none of this had ever happened.
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UPDATE:
just wanted to thank all of you guys who were there for me a few weeks ago, and let you know the good news that my cousin is out of hospital!!!! No-one thought he would make it through the first few days when they couldn't stop the bleeding after taking his spleen out. then he had to stay on the ventilator 2.5wks coz his lungs were so damaged. but now he's home!!
It will still be a long road to recovery, he has a machine to exercise his lungs, and has to go to local clinic for wound cleaning and dressing daily. he's in pain from some hairline fractures and has to be helped to toilet etc, but the think he's going to be ok in the end now.
Just wanted to thank you all for your lovely words. The worrry about his prognosis being to bleak and everything else that has happened recently was really upsetting, but you were all a big help. hopefully this is a sign that next year is gonna be better!!!
Gxx
[Modified by: gemgems13 on 19 December 2009 13:40:48 ]
now today I've just found out my cousin is in intensive care after falling 6 storeys. they don't know if he was trying to kill himself or maybe on drugs. he's had his spleen removed but is still bleeding internally. when asked if spine was ok apparently docs said his legs are moving so they think so but that's the least of their worries at the moment! And he's malaysian, so I can't go to visit him.
Every time I start to feel better something else awful happens. How much bad luck can one family possibly have in a year? Everything just seems so unfair at the moment. I wish I could just wake up and it'd be new years day and none of this had ever happened.
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UPDATE:
just wanted to thank all of you guys who were there for me a few weeks ago, and let you know the good news that my cousin is out of hospital!!!! No-one thought he would make it through the first few days when they couldn't stop the bleeding after taking his spleen out. then he had to stay on the ventilator 2.5wks coz his lungs were so damaged. but now he's home!!
It will still be a long road to recovery, he has a machine to exercise his lungs, and has to go to local clinic for wound cleaning and dressing daily. he's in pain from some hairline fractures and has to be helped to toilet etc, but the think he's going to be ok in the end now.
Just wanted to thank you all for your lovely words. The worrry about his prognosis being to bleak and everything else that has happened recently was really upsetting, but you were all a big help. hopefully this is a sign that next year is gonna be better!!!
Gxx
[Modified by: gemgems13 on 19 December 2009 13:40:48 ]
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I'm so sorry about all the things that happened! It has been a terrible year, but also good as we are still here and getting on with things. I agree with you as I cannot wait for the year to be over.
As hard as it may sound, try and be optimistic and over time things will get better. I hope you are surrounded by friends and loved one who will help through this period.
We are here for you, always.
XXXXXXX BIGGEST HUG EVER! Sara
xxx
Jodie xx
Sometimes the distribution of bad luck in this world seems to be really disproportionate.
Take care x x x
makka pakka I can't visit him coz he's in malaysia. tho apparently their hospitals are very different from ours and you can only visit in 2 1hour slots each day - even my aunty and uncle! tho my uncle apparently sneaks in every 4hours and the nurses are 'tolerating' him and he's not been home since the accident. my cousin that lives in london flew home as soon as it happened and it sounds like she's taken over everything and is taking care of her parents and little bro and sis, so that's good.
the last update, tho a bit delayed with the time difference is that there was no change. obviously not great to still be critical in icu, but at least no worse. We've since found out that he landed on grass not concrete, so that's probably why he's alive.
facebook and email and stuff means you can contact people so easily nowadays, it's not til something like this happens that you realise they're actually on the other side of the world
Roll on 2010 & some good luck for us all xxx
It has been an awful year. My sister-in-law's mother passed away in Jan, my wife had a MC in Jan/Feb, then my grandfather died in May on my niece's birthday. Then we got some good news, my wife was expecting twins. My cousin who was trying to conceive also was pregnant. Sadly my cousin had a MC 10 weeks in to her pregnancy. Then on 13th Nov at 24 weeks, we lost our twin boys too. It has been a year from hell. We had six months of very pleasant and happy memories and then the painful loss which will remain forever.