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Do you believe the 'everything comes in 3's theory? -Rant
I always did, but now that I've now had twom c straight after one another, does that neam I should expect a third? God, I feel stupid even asking this but I can't help but wonder....
I hate this feeling of complete loss of control, of now knowing, of being annoyed at everything, of having to see my 2 neighbours and one of my friends well in to their pregnancies, of dipping in to my old forum (stupid I know) and finding that most of the them have been able to find out the sex of their baby, then dipping in the the other due in forum and finding that they're all loving it, of feeling like I have been pregnant for 5 months but with absolutley F all to show for it, of not being able to give my husband the one thing that women are supposingly able to do quite easily, of being able to get pregnant but not being able to keep my bean safe and snug - everyone else I know can, just not me. I hate the fact that everyone has an opinion of my I have mc AGAIN and all their theories are somthing to do with me, I already know it's something to do with me, but I don't need reminding of it every five minutes thank you very much- FFS I would never dream of saying half of these things; maybe you worked too hard, maybe you can only carry one sex, did you lift anything, have you been eating the wrong foods - just go and F yourself, don't you think I've already scrutinised everything I've done - I DON'T need you to do it either.
I've had a enough of it all, and if one person tells me 'well at least you can get pregnant' I'm going to reply 'but I can't F-ing keep I though can I?!'
Aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh
edited to say sorry, I didn't realise it was going to end in a rant, I didn't mean to upset anyone.
xxx
[Modified by: **rainbow** on 26 February 2010 14:36:00 ]
I hate this feeling of complete loss of control, of now knowing, of being annoyed at everything, of having to see my 2 neighbours and one of my friends well in to their pregnancies, of dipping in to my old forum (stupid I know) and finding that most of the them have been able to find out the sex of their baby, then dipping in the the other due in forum and finding that they're all loving it, of feeling like I have been pregnant for 5 months but with absolutley F all to show for it, of not being able to give my husband the one thing that women are supposingly able to do quite easily, of being able to get pregnant but not being able to keep my bean safe and snug - everyone else I know can, just not me. I hate the fact that everyone has an opinion of my I have mc AGAIN and all their theories are somthing to do with me, I already know it's something to do with me, but I don't need reminding of it every five minutes thank you very much- FFS I would never dream of saying half of these things; maybe you worked too hard, maybe you can only carry one sex, did you lift anything, have you been eating the wrong foods - just go and F yourself, don't you think I've already scrutinised everything I've done - I DON'T need you to do it either.
I've had a enough of it all, and if one person tells me 'well at least you can get pregnant' I'm going to reply 'but I can't F-ing keep I though can I?!'
Aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh
edited to say sorry, I didn't realise it was going to end in a rant, I didn't mean to upset anyone.
xxx
[Modified by: **rainbow** on 26 February 2010 14:36:00 ]
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I know EXACTLY where you are coming from - I had 2 successive MC's, both at 6 weeks. I was absolutely convinced that something was wrong with me and we stopped TTC for a few months because I was convinced that I would just MC again. All I heard from people was those bl00dy horrible phrases 'at least you know you can get pregnant' - yeah, thanks, that makes me feel so much better, the idea of getting pregnant and MC'ing over and over again! - and 'it's not as if it was even a baby' - er yes, it was, it was MY baby.
I scrutinised every tiny thing I had done before I fell pregnant and afterwards, desperate to find someone to blame, even if it was myself.
6 months after the second MC, I found out I was pregnant again. I wanted to wrap myself up in cotton wool for the next 8 months, but at the same time I coudn't actually believe that I would get a 'take home' baby. But exactly 8 months after I got that BFP, I gave birth to a healthy daughter. Until the moment she was born, I don't think I actually accepted that it was going to happen - apparently, when her head crowned, I turned to OH and said 'oh my god, there really is a baby in there!'
I won't lie, I'm still terrified now about TTC, even though I know I can carry a pregnancy to term. But hopefully all my 'bad luck' is out of the way, and it will be the same for you hon.
Big hugs, xxx
Take care, look after yourself and keep going it WILL happen
Jacqui
xx
In my case I had taken migraine meds and eaten liver in the 2 week wait and beat myself up big style plus I did yoga until 6 weeks and carried on lifting kids etc. I believed and still do that a viable pregnancy would have certainly survived the stretching and the mw was encouraging that if the liver or meds had been to blame in the 2 ww it was unlikely I would have got to 11 weeks before losing it.
However, I have to say that nobody suggested it was anything I did - I thought at least one person would mention my age...
I am truly amazed that people would feel they had the right to suggest things to you. As you say FFS it's not like we don't think those things ourselves :evil:
The only thing really was one person said it happens for a reason and as I agreed it didn't upset me. It's hard not knowing the reason tho eh?
It's doubly hard not knowing if it will happen again.
You just have to have faith my lovely. Plenty of people have perfectly healthy pregnancies - I had at least 2 early mc (possibly 4 but I hadn't been ttc so hadn't tested and known I was preg and didn't know you could still get +ve after) before having 2 text book pregnancies but then I've had another mc. There really is no rhyme or reason and just because loads of people on here might have had one then healthy preg or 2 or 3 or more it doesn't mean you will be the same hun.
I'm thinking of you and hoping you get a sticky bean really really soon - and all of us too. We deserve them eh?
No I dont beleive in all things happens in 3's unless it's good things!!
Your entitled to a good old rant sweetie & we understand how you feel to go through it once is bad enough but again is just awful. My heart is breaking for you, dont punish yourself hun it's not your fault i've done that before & it doesnt help sweetie. Of course your gona feel angry & upset & your entitled too.
You will have your baby hun, big hugs xxx
We have to keep trying and believe it will work.
I've decided I'm going to go with the saying '3rd time lucky' PMA and hope to god I'm right.
Wishing everyone a bfp and full 9mths to baby happiness x