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Just had silent miscarriage
Hi, this is my first post and I need a little support. After trying to conceive for 8 years, my hubby and I started adoption process due to be approved in June. In April I discovered I was pregnant only to find I had a silent misscarriage on May 1st. I then endd up in hospital last monday where I actualy had the miscarriage.
Now I am home and feel like I need to make sense of it all. Whole family is devastated and I am so worried that I wont conceive again.
Can anyone help x
Now I am home and feel like I need to make sense of it all. Whole family is devastated and I am so worried that I wont conceive again.
Can anyone help x
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Good luck, and do come on here if you are feeling down, we have been through the same and we are very good listeners.
I also had a missed miscarriage in Jan & was told different things by the doctors. 2-3months, however I went with a friend to her fertility appt not long after & the nurse told me that it was really up to how we felt, and the only real reason some doctors say wait is for dating purposes.
I waited for one period then started trying, however mine took quite a while too arrive.
I found it really hard & my doctor signed me off work for a month, I must say further down the line I feel better it does get easier. You just have to give yourself the time you need & talk about it when you need too.
The miscarriage association have some useful info as I couldnt make head or tail of how I was feeling, there info helped me understand that what I was feeling was normal.
xxxx
People are surprisingly kind though, we had told a lot of people as we found out about the mmc at 12 weeks and I have had a lot of support, are you back at work soon? don't go in until you are ready, things will be a bit up and down for a while, how is your OH coping?
Poor you, having to go to so many hositals sounds a bit traumatic, as far as being told what to do - I was told by my GP that the only reason they ask you to wait a cycle is for dating reasons and that its fine to start trying again as soon as you feel ready. This seems to be the general advice given to most people on here too.
I hope to be PG by due date of 24th Nov. That would make it much easier to deal with. Hospital told us that will have several early scans next time so that will be reassuring.
I hope to be PG by due date of 24th Nov. That would make it much easier to deal with. Hospital told us that will have several early scans next time so that will be reassuring.
Just wanted to say sorry for your loss. I had a mmc in January. I had one af then tried again, we got pg 2nd month of trying again.
Try to think if there was anything you did differently. It might just be the stress level was decreased, because you were so close the the adoption process being completed. xx
I totally believe that I fell pregnant because my mind wasn't on it but don't know how to follow my own advice to help again.
I suppose I am worried that it will take years again to conceive. Have you had a scan yet x
You are fertile in the 3 months after a mc, so it was just luck I fell again so quickly. I waited 8 months the first time. Which I realise is nothing to what you have experienced.
I have different 'symptoms' to last time, so I am having a mini panic, as I don't know if that's good or bad! lol
It's way to early for a scan. At 6 weeks you are lucky if you see the heartbeat. Now it's still a bunch of cells, with the sac just forming.
I hope to get an early scan. But as my bean died at 9 weeks. Not sure it'll actually achieve anything for me. But to see the baby at anytime, will be welcome! xx
I didn't find out till i was about 7 weeks but looking back i had every symptom. It will be difficult to not to recognise them this time if they are the same. Whats your due date now?
I didn't find out till i was about 7 weeks but looking back i had every symptom. It will be difficult to not to recognise them this time if they are the same. Whats your due date now?
So sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mmc at 7 weeks at the end of march. We were both devastated.
We are now ttc again - I have not had a period since my d & c - I've also heard loads of conflicting things about when to ttc again, but I did lots of research and spoke to a nurse on gynae (sometimes I think the nurses know lots more than the doctors!) who told me there was no higher risk of another mc if you didn't wait, and the reason you're asked to wait is for dating purposes and to make sure you are emotionally ready. I went back to work 2 days later, I had my d & c on the Friday and went back to work on the Monday, mostly because I felt like I needed some normality/structure back.
I've heard lots about you being more fertile immediately after a miscarriage so am really hoping that it is true. I just joined this site a few weeks back and everyone is so kind, encouraging and helpful - it is really good to know that there are other people in the same situation as you.
Take care,
Kristen xx
So sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mmc at 7 weeks at the end of march. We were both devastated.
We are now ttc again - I have not had a period since my d & c - I've also heard loads of conflicting things about when to ttc again, but I did lots of research and spoke to a nurse on gynae (sometimes I think the nurses know lots more than the doctors!) who told me there was no higher risk of another mc if you didn't wait, and the reason you're asked to wait is for dating purposes and to make sure you are emotionally ready. I went back to work 2 days later, I had my d & c on the Friday and went back to work on the Monday, mostly because I felt like I needed some normality/structure back.
I've heard lots about you being more fertile immediately after a miscarriage so am really hoping that it is true. I just joined this site a few weeks back and everyone is so kind, encouraging and helpful - it is really good to know that there are other people in the same situation as you.
Take care,
Kristen xx