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Im new so bear with me. Im 40 and would be 8 wks today. I posted on dif forum but it was suggested i post here. Its my 4th preg and I have 2 older sons. This would have been1st with new hubby. I have been bleeding for 8 days, 6 very heavily. Had 3 int scans, last one Monday. Each show hb and growth. Last one tho they told me that bleeding was too heavy and pregnancy not likely to cont. Ive to go back next week for another scan. I cant believe how much blood and how long this lasts. I feel like im in limbo. Its torture waiting for this to end. I cant grieve because as far as I know there is still a hb, but so much blood. Has anybody had a similar experience? I actually just feel numb now.
In my heart I know im miscarrying.
In my heart I know im miscarrying. 0
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I can't really help much as I went for my twelve week scan and found no heartbeat so had a missed mc no bleeding no pain no nothing. So you never can tell. I ended up having a d and c operation.
It's been a painful process but it does get easier. Once again so sorry to hear this but really hope it is good news for you x
I will say a prayer that your bean is ok xxx
I had slight spotting with a HB, and then weeks later we had bleeding and a slow HB, then when we went back for another scan the next day the HB had stopped! I then bled for 3 week and got an infection and ended up having an ERPC anyway.
I was 9wks and 5 days and it was just horrible and the worst thing I've ever experienced. The waiting is the worst. However I don't think you ever give up hope, you just pray that baby will make a U turn and you know what, it isn't impossible. It isn't over yet and your baby is fighting, stay positive and you never know.
If things don't work out, then you'll find all the support you will need on here. The girls on here kept me sane and were so kind.
One thing I would say is that I NEVER regretted having my scans! If I hadn't had the 2nd to last scan they would have told me that my baby died between 7-8wks because that was its size, I'd have been left thinking I'd been carrying a dead bean around for 2 weeks or so, but I know that wasn't true because we saw its HB the day before it died and in a way that scan was like saying goodbye, it was heart breaking the beating of the heart was so laboured. I loved that flump sooo much, I'll never forget and hopefully I'll get to keep my new bean.
I wish you loads of luck and pray that your bean it stubborn and fights!! Lots of love xxxx
Please try and relax. Don't try and greive over something that may not have happened. Save yourself the heartache. There can be lots of reasons for bleeding, even if it is heavy. Since i've been on BE i've been suprised many a time by the success stories!
Are you having painful cramps or clots? Because i had a brown discharge (sorry tmi) for 4 days with no cramps and they told me i was probably miscarrying but believe me when the heavy bleeding started i had major excruciating tummy cramps and lots of clots.
Have you had this? Because if it's just bleeding then there's every chance there could be another cause.
Sorry you're having to go through this hun
xxx
So if you go and post with the heading FAO MrsR she should reply. She had terrible bleeding hun and might be able to help. A couple of the other ladies had it too.
Check this thread out
http://www.babyexpert.com/chatroom/topic/182591
Its another lady from due in dec
Most of them were incidents of spotting but the most hideous was a very heavy bleed where I was soaking through pads and my cramps were so bad I could barely stand up.
I was utterly convinced I'd miscarried as when I went to the loo I could feel the blood running out of me and I was sure I saw a few clots too. Amazingly my little baby was fine, and when the doctor scanned me I was still bleeding heavily but he couldn't find any cause for it at all.
The bleed lasted around 4-5 days and I still to this day can't believe I bled so much and baby is still fine. The doctor was lovely and said to me that once they've seen a heartbeat the chances of m/c are very much reduced.
I have my fingers and toes crossed that you and your baby are fine, I think there's every chance you will be now that they've seen the heartbeat etc. I think we just have naughty, attention seeking little babies!
Take care, xx
I'm so sorry you are going through this and still bleeding. I have had a few similar problems myself and my feed from DID is below.
http://www.babyexpert.com/chatroom/topic/182591
But it's such encouraging news that the baby is fine and the HB is there. Around 30% of pregnancy have bleeding and alot of the time the reasons for these are unknown. I have a whats called a subchoionic haematoma so have a diagnosis but there is so very little known about those also, even having a diagnosis doesn't always tell you anymore info.
I fully understand though that all we really want to know is that everything will be alright? The big question. There are so many risks but many women with bleeding go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies so I hold onto that. At first I was so worried but have been on bedrest and the most I can do is stay positive and do as much as I can to rest and give my bean a chance.
I really have all my fingers crossed for you. It is hard to do but please try not to worry and stress as this will not help you and it's horrible being so consummed by worry. All the ladies in DID have been so nice and supportive and it really helped my mood. So please just talk about how you feel as it really has helped me.
Jo xx
So delighted for you xxx
Has the bleeding stopped? xxxxxxx