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Hi Girls,
sadly just found out im having a mmc as couldnt detect the Hb and the baby isnt as far along as it should be, when I had a miscarriage back in March it was an early 1 and happened naturally but dont think I can wait a few weeks to have another natural mc, I am thinking of having a d+c just wondered if anyone has had any experience of this and either recommend or discourage me from having it?
Thanks for listening
Luc xxx
sadly just found out im having a mmc as couldnt detect the Hb and the baby isnt as far along as it should be, when I had a miscarriage back in March it was an early 1 and happened naturally but dont think I can wait a few weeks to have another natural mc, I am thinking of having a d+c just wondered if anyone has had any experience of this and either recommend or discourage me from having it?
Thanks for listening
Luc xxx
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I'm so sorry to hear you are having another mc, really really sad for both you and your OH.
I had a D&C in April at 7+3 and it was definitely the best option of those available. It was quick, painless, I bled for only abot 2 days afterwards and only very lightly and I think emotionally it was definitely for the best. I had a mmc too and I honestly couldn't have carried on just waiting for the mc to start.
Obviously it has to be your decision but I would certainly have a D&C again if, god forbid, I should need to.
Take care,
Love Kristen xx
Really, really sorry to hear your sad news.
I agree with Kristen, I had a D&C back in February after finding out I'd had a mmc at my scan at 13 weeks. It was pretty pain free, just a little uncomfortable for a couple of days after. Emotionally much easier than having to sit and wait for a natural mc - which might not happen for weeks.
I'm sure you will decide what is best for you, everyone is different.
Take care of yourself. x
Firstly, i'm so sorry for your loss hun.
I've had 2 d&c's for mmc's and i think that they were the best option for me. The second time i did try the medical management to begin with but it ended up failing and i had to have a erpc anyway so i wish i had gone for that option in the first place.
Take care of yourself x
Good luck and my heart goes out to you!
xxxxx
Officially they recommend waiting the first cycle before TTC again, but there are conflicting views about whether this is for a physiological reason or to make dating easier if you fall PG straight away. We've decided to wait the first month to let my body recover a bit, (which has just come to an end) and just to be on the safe side as I don't want to go through that again. The first period after a mc which ever treatment you have can take 4-6 weeks (or even a bit longer) to return. It is a frustrating wait, but we all seem to get there in the end.
Look after yourself and your OH at this time, we are all here to suport you if there's anything we can do xx
It must be awful still feeling pg - my symptoms had totally disappeared, which was what prompted me to go to the dr and get a referal for an early scan.
how long will your appt take to come through? we were very lucky - came home after scan to look at our options, rang the epu the same day and got booked in for the next day - i really hope it doesn't take long for you - maybe you could try calling them to hurry things along?
take care xxx
Ive been doing lots of research too, think we will bd but not actively try if you know what I mean and see what happens and then get back on it with CBFM after cycle 1, just the thought of TTC is getting me through, not sure how I will feel tomorrow.
Anyway girls enough about me...how are you all feeling?
Love Luc xxx
I've also had two mc and had ERPC for both. I was offered a scan before first time but declined as I couldn't bear to see the bean again and I was sure that it was gone. After my second they wouln't let me have one (this time i wanted one just to be sure - i was in denial) and they just reassured me that tehre was no way they could escape not seeing the hb as it is so clear.
I hope everything goes as well as it can do tomorrow and that the physical aspect is soon over so taht you can start to grieve.
Take care
Little mo xx
Just wanted to say sorry to hear about your second mc, I hope it all goes as well as it can at the hospital (don;t know much about it as I had ectopic)
take care
Daisyx