pregnant and disabled. anybody else??
i was just wondering if anybody else out there has a disability and is currently pregnant or trying to concieve? i have encountered all sorts of prejudice and snotty opinions, I've been labelled "selfish" and "stupid" for wanting/having children as I'm disabled people have asked me "how I'm going to cope" and I've even had a midwife phone social services alleging she "had concerns for my babyba I'm disabled and she believed i wouldn't cope" ( i already had two children by this point and "coped"just fine) i find it incredibly frustrating sometimes how people judje me based solely on my disabilities and seem to be unable to see my ABILITIES , I'm a strong willed and determined person and have Always refused to let small minded people bring me down but i must admit sometimes it's hard to do. i hate when people feel "sorry" for me and talk to me like im stupid or a child or just plain refuse to speak to me as they "don't know what to say" my disability is physical, there's nothing wrong with my brain!! lol
i have three beautiful daughters and am so proud of all of them, i am currently nine weeks and pregnant with my fourth and docotrs aren't particularly happy about me being so adamant that i WILL continue with the pregnancy regarless , it will be my last pregnancy as i knowntheres only so much i can put my body through and each pregnancy has left lasting damage to my body which has if I'm honest mad some parts of my disability worse but i just dontsee why i shouldn't achieve th things i wan in life JUST because i have limited abilities. i always wanted a large family an it's just a dream inrefuse to let go of, I've given up so much else (although begrudgingly lol) why should i not be entitled to this!?!.
i just wanted to hear your opinions and experiences on how you (or even someone you know) has found pregnancy and motherhood with a disability,particularly the reactions of other people. this pregnancy friends and families first reactions have been "oh no, are you going to be ok" and i find it sooooo annoying, i am happy why can't they be? yes it's going to be a struggle physically getting through the pregnancy but it's MY struggle, the way i see it they either support me or sshut up lol xxxx