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4 month baby pregnant again
Hi my LG is 17 week old and just found out I'm pregnant again it's such a shock anyone else is the same situation thanks
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Hi shellystar, my son was about 25 weeks when I found out I was pregnant again (about 5 weeks ago) I'm now about 9 weeks pregnant with baby number 4 and shocked isn't a good enough word for how we felt. I've been bleeding now for four weeks and have already had 4 scans because we thought I was losing it but each scan has been fine. I have another one tomorrow after another heavy bleed on Friday but I'm sure it will be fine again. I went through every option in the first two weeks after finding out, I seriously thought about ending the pregnancy and hoped that the first and second scan would show that it wasn't a viable pregnancy but I've now seen a developing sac and the last three scans have shown a healthy heartbeat so although we are still reeling from the news we have come round to the idea of another baby and nothing is being took to the charity shops anymore hopefully it's another boy! I'm an older mum (40) and have a 20 year old daughter, 9 year old daughter, 7 month old son and 9 weeks pregnant. Take your time to decide what is best for you and your family and don't feel pressured to make any decisions you're not comfortable with. MFM is a great sounding board and I'm sure we aren't the only ones in this situation I know of another lady who is in this position and she has and is experiencing all the feelings and emotions that come with this news.
Caroline XXX
Hi shellystar similar situation here I have 6 month old twins and despite taking the minipill and most of the time using condoms we got caught as soon as my oh came home from working abroad literally the first night. He's been home 3 weeks and I'm officially 5 weeks pregnant. We are still in turmoil as to what to do as we have a health issue that could affect the pregnancy Quite seriously this would also be my sixth pregnancy I have a 15 yo 11 yo 9 yo from my previous marriage then we got the twins who will be 7 months end of this month and my oh has an 8 yo to his first marriage so to say we have our hands full is an understatement. Financially it's not a problem space wise it would be OK to buy sanity with the twins as much as they are easy babies I'm really not sure and I'm booked for a scan and to discuss options this Friday coming but right now I couldn't say what we are going to do. Having my other girls close together wasn't too bad there is 16 months between them I just worry as twins and a newborn my life would be mental plus oh works abroad 6 months of the year so tough enough with twins. Hope your ok tho.
Hi it's so hard I have a 5 year old little girl to really don't no what to do I'm 4 weeks going doctors on Thursday I have been looking about maternity pay and don't think I would qualify for it as I would be on maternity pay this year in the qualifying weeks
It is very very hard here if you need to talk.
Thankyou kayagh hope your OK to it's such a hard situation. we only dtd once last month never thought I would get caught as I had to have fertility treatment for my other two.
Will you be able to find out about the health issue before you decide x
No it requires fetal blood screening done at 16 weeks I carry antibodies and our little girl was born affected so future pregnancies will be affected more severely and sooner if they carry my partners blood type worst case is transfusions in utero and we live 2 hours away from hospital that could do it I just don't think that's fair on the twins or my other children high risk of still birth too. If we don't proceed I'll be looking to use the abortion pill before 9 weeks. We have already decided if it's a twin pregnancy we won't continue as the drain on my body would be too much it's just if it one but I'm struggling to decide it's so hard But life with 6 kids is already a juggling act. We are getting married two weeks tomorrow too so I'm focused on that as I doubt I want to do anything next week.
Kayagh if I was going to terminate I too would be wanting it done asap. im the last person I thought would ever be in this situation. I have another scan tomorrow as had another very heavy bleed with clots on Friday evening. I'm nearly 9 weeks now so with every scan it's looking more and more like a baby. Only two weeks and you'll be the beautiful bride with your gorgeous children by your side,
whatever the options are and whatever works out best for the three of us ladies what will be will be and I know we all will put the people we love first and make these decisions as the strong families that we are.
Move said it before to you kayagh and I will say it again to you shellystar. Whatever you decide continue with pregnancy or terminate the choice is yours and nobody on here will judge.
Thankyou Caroline it's hard because only my other half knows and we both don't no what to do for the best. I had a c/section with my LG so don't no if that will be okay to have another so soon. Hope your scan goes okay tomorrow let us know how you get on x
Kayagh it must be so hard for you to hope your okay x
How did your scan go Caroline
Hi sorry I've been meaning to get on here all day! The scan was fine measuring 8w5d, they said they can't see anymore blood so hopefully it should stop over the next day or two. I hope so it's been 4 weeks of continuous bleeding now and I'm so sick of it.
When is your scan kayagh. 2 weeks today and you'll have a wonderful day to take your mind off it for a little while. Looking forward to pictures of the whole day.
the sonographer wrote a little message on the scan pic for dad, it's his birthday today xx
I hope your feeling ok today shellystar. I've not suffered any pregnancy symptoms this time no sickness or nausea, boobs not sensitive at all, I'm a bit tired but to be honest I always am. So if I hadn't tested I wouldn't suspect at all that I was pregnant. I would have of course been to go about the bleeding and I assume they would have done a pregnancy test but having a very easy time of it except the ruddy bleeding!
Scan is Friday and tbh I don't want to see the screen I need to decide and that won't help me. I feel fine also my boobs were tender before I was due my period in a way I knew something was up that one bout of nausea at the toast he made but nothing no spotting no sickness tired but hey I run round after 6 kids all day. Can't wait for our wedding day had vows approved by registrar photographer confirmed now just so excited all this will be forgotten about for that one day and I will toast the day with my husband hehehe weird calling him that lol.
Yeah kayagh tell them you don't want to see the screen, I was undecided before the scan but they had a look and when they saw the heartbeat they turned the screen round to show me and when you have that sign of life it's a completely different decision that your making.
We have had a lovely birthday tea tonight and been able to relax a little, Lauren my 9 yr old told me to not get pregnant this year so that I get to see the christmas pantomime lol. Jensen was born 3 days before we were booked to see the pants last year so she took a friend in my place!!! I just laughed.
So glad your scan went well Caroline
Kayagh I wouldn't look at the screen if your unsure what to do x
I'm okay think I'm getting over the shock still undecided x
Had my first antenatal appointment and because of bleeding there is a chance of, small baby and pregnancy failing. Because my last birth was a c section and it was only 7 month ago so 13 ish months when this one will be due there is a risk of the scar rupturing so will be booked for a c section for 37 weeks. I have to take folic acid for whole pregnancy because of the bleeding. But they are more than happy to tie my tubes while on the table after the c section so I'm pleased about that.
Kayagh I hope tomorrow isn't too stressful and helps you make your mind up one way or the other.
shellystar I hope you are getting used to the idea of another pregnancy and are able to think a bit more clearly about your choices xxx
Caroline yes we have decided to keep the baby think I'm 6 weeks tomorrow still in shock but these things happen.
Got a appointment on the 16th August seems like we are very similar I have had two c/sections so hoping to go in early as I'm scared of it rupturing mine still bleeds a little on one side so going to mention it when I go and i am going to ask for my tubes to be tied I ask the doctor yesterday and she thinks I will be able to have this done when will your baby be due?
Kayagh hope tomorrow goes okay for you what ever you decide x
I've been given a provisional due date of 22nd Feb but that'll be confirmed or changed at 12 week scan. It's my birthday on 19th Feb but it'll be beginning of Feb when I'll be took in for the c section.
I told my Mam today and she took it really well, I felt like a noughts teenager when I was telling her and had visions of her telling me off lol. But she said she hopes everything works out that their are no problems connected with the bleeding. I think she is pleased rhat they will tie my tubes when they do the c section though haha.
I'm struggling we have argued all week I've spent most nights in tears I want to keep the baby but fear the antibodies will be problematic that and his ex wife seems to have adopted me and is driving me insane his lil girl is hard work with the aspergers and I can't see a way forward to keep it right now I just want it to go away but that makes me feel like s horrible person so upset at the moment
Oh kayagh I spent two weeks hoping the bleeding was a miscarriage!! Then wishing it just wasn't there. I felt so guilty for feeling the way I did, I didn't want anyone to know the news because I thought people would say I was stupid. So please don't feel bad for feeling the way you do. I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone and my situation isn't as bad as yours with twins already and the antibodies problem. Have the scan tomorrow tell them you don't want to see the screen, get the information you need and then start the most difficult process of making the hardest decision of your life. Whatever that decision is its what's right for you is all that matters xxx I'll be thinking of you X sending all my love xx
Kayagh sending you big hugs today it's such a hard decision with everything going on hope your okay today x
Caroline I was the same told my mum the other day I'm 32 but felt like a teenager thought she was going to tell me off but she was ok x
Ok so had my scan he looked I couldn't confirmed its just one at around 51/2 weeks they have made an app for us to see the consultant who is specialist in antibodies as I think if it's highly likely it's going to be a complicated pregnancy ie intrauterine blood transfusion we haven't anyone close by to help with the babies or other kids so would be selfish to risk social services needing to become involved because I get put in hospital while Richard is working appointment is for the 8th and we will decide then. But it's not ectopic or twins so now we really need to decide.