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Pro's & Con's of finding out the sex - plz. xx
Hey lovely ladies. I've got my 20wk scan in just over a week and need your help!! My hubby wants to know the sex of the baby where as im undecided, one minute i think i want to know then the next minute i think i've been through sooo much for this baby a surprise would be lovely. please can you tell me either pro's and con's of knowing or why/how you made your decision. thanks. xxx
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Another con for me, not knowing I think is something that will help keep me motivated in labour - bit like knowing your christmas pressents before christmas day!!!
One more hubby wants to be the one who tells me what we've had when (hopefully) sprog is delivered straight onto my chest
Me and oh decided to find out the sex as we were too impatient to wait and were told 100% so dont need to worry about mistakes etc. The pros i think are: being able to buy more than just neutral and can decorate room etc, being able to connect more with bump.
Cons: people constantly asking what the sex is!!! We are keeping a secret from other people and its a nightmare lol; missing out on the surprise after a long labour; mistakes being made (rare now).
I would have loved to wait for a surprise but i just couldnt and at our scan it was really obvious it was a boy anyway. Good luck with the decision! xxx
16 weeks today!
Louise.
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So basically as far as I am concerned pros are to enable yourself to get organised...cons are that there is no surprise!
C.x
princess+millie 31 xxx
Second time around, I didn't care about the sex of the baby. I had high BP throughout and just really wanted a healthy, happy baby. We had a boy and he's adorable!
But it is nice to be able to buy pink or blue with the choice of unisex clothes being so limited. My husband didnt want to know so therefore I wasnt allowed to know lol. But not long to go now!
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Pros: she is no longer an it - its great to call my bump by her name, I have a gorgeous lilac nursery with drawers full of pink clothes. If we hadnt found out i know i would have made dh redecorate a cream nursery! Also know for sure she is a she as we had a 4d scan too. I also love telling people we are having a girl.
Cons - Personally dont think there are for us. The thought of seeing my little girl will motivate me through labour.
I have never been good at surprises though. Me and dh always end up giving each other xmas pressies early.
On the cons side. Does your partner have any particular desire for either sex? Within a week or so of finding out I was carrying a daughter, the biological father left me as he wanted a son!!! Lol
elaine xx