my midwife is horrible..
sorry for the rant but i had my 16 week appointment this monring and was REALLY looking forward to it as haven't met my midwife yet or had a proper chat with anyone (my booking in was just done quickly with a student in an office a day before my scan) Anyway..i came out in tears and felt worse than before i went in!
I have been ill with a fluey thing for over a month, which may be linked to an existing heart condition which i've been waiting to see a consultant about. My GPhas been very helpful and done extra blood tests whichi'm waiting on the results for, as at present i can't even make it to the end of the road walking i get so out of breath, tired and dizzy. Anyway she was very dissmissive about me feeling unwell, and wouldn't listen to any of my concerns or properly answer my questions. I haven't had a consultant appointment through yet, and so she told me i need to chase it, before eventually ringing up the hospital myself, only to be told the consultant dosn't want to see me. I understand this and totally appreciate his proffesional opinion, but this made the midwide turn on me as if i'd been making the whole thing up, and why did i think i needed consultant care if he didn't (the reason being the student midwife checked with another midwife at my booking in who used to be a cardic nurse and said i needed to be reffered)
Anyhow, at this point her attitute twards me had me in tears. I know its hormones etc, but when i started crying she looked at me like i was pathetic. I told her i was struggling from feeling so ill and was feeling really down and spent most part of every day in tears and i was embarrassed and sorry for crying on her. She said nothing.
Then she checked my urine with me still in tears, wrote in my notes, checked my BP (me still crying) and told me everything was fine. She didn't weigh me or feel my tummy and only listened to babys heartbeat when I asked. She then heard my heartbeat though the doppler too and said very sarcastically ' your heartbeat sounds fine to me now..not tachicardic at all' AGGHHH!!
I was so upset when i left i walked through the waiting room in floods of tears, and once i got to my mums the icing on the cake was what she had written in my notes....
I couldn't belive it. After all i'd said there is no record of anything.
Sorry this is turning into an essay, but i totally understand my symptoms are pregnancy related and despite my GP says may jsut be that and nothing more, and all i wanted was alittle reassurance from a caring midwife. Instead i felt like i was making a nuisense of myself even being there pregnant!
This is my midwife now i'll have to see all the way through. (supposedly, although she kept cancelling my booking in hence the fact i saw a lovely student midwife last minute!) Does anyone know if it is possible to change your midwife??
Sorry for the rant.xxx