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We've lost our baby.
I haven't been on here for a while, and I probably will take some more time away.
We went for our 12 week scan yeaterday, and it was bad news. The baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks, and there was no heartbeat.
We went to the EPU, and they explained about the hormones or ERPC, and could probabaly put me onto Tuesday's list if we opted for ERPC. Then she came back and said, it could actually be done yesterday afternoon. I couldn't even get the words out to say there was no way I could face losing my baby naturally with the hormones.
So I came home got a couple of things, then was admitted to that gynae ward. The waiting around is agony. My OH went to work to tell them what was happening. I had rung my boss from EPU, as I was supposed to go to work after the scan.
So that's it, I came home yesterday evening. There's a bit of cramping and some light bleeding, but nothing major. I have episodes of crying but it's not constant. I have so many thoughts going round in my head all the Why's, What if's, was it something I did/didn't do etc. But we have to accept we'll never know why this baby wasn't destined to be. We'll pick ourselves up, and I do want to try again - now it has really hit my OH he is less keen at the moment.
Sorry this is so long, I hope it makes sense as the tears are obscurring the screen and keyboard. Just thought it might be therapeutic to write it down. xx
We went for our 12 week scan yeaterday, and it was bad news. The baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks, and there was no heartbeat.
We went to the EPU, and they explained about the hormones or ERPC, and could probabaly put me onto Tuesday's list if we opted for ERPC. Then she came back and said, it could actually be done yesterday afternoon. I couldn't even get the words out to say there was no way I could face losing my baby naturally with the hormones.
So I came home got a couple of things, then was admitted to that gynae ward. The waiting around is agony. My OH went to work to tell them what was happening. I had rung my boss from EPU, as I was supposed to go to work after the scan.
So that's it, I came home yesterday evening. There's a bit of cramping and some light bleeding, but nothing major. I have episodes of crying but it's not constant. I have so many thoughts going round in my head all the Why's, What if's, was it something I did/didn't do etc. But we have to accept we'll never know why this baby wasn't destined to be. We'll pick ourselves up, and I do want to try again - now it has really hit my OH he is less keen at the moment.
Sorry this is so long, I hope it makes sense as the tears are obscurring the screen and keyboard. Just thought it might be therapeutic to write it down. xx
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I hope you are getting lots of support and that when you are ready you come back to us.
Take care of yourself xx
I am thinking about you loads.
Much love, Joo xxxxx
Sending you a big hug. You know where I am if you want to rant or cry.
H.xxxx
ps My mum had a mmc before she had me, she had an ERPC and fell again straight away. Fingers crossed for you too.
K xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
you and your husband take care of each other xxxx
Your husband will come round, just give him some time, I think you both probably need some time. Although the baby was only 9 weeks when it died, it's still a loss and you both need to grieve.
My mum and cousin both suffered from miscarriages but when on to have healthy babies, and a friend of mine lost 2 babies at 6 weeks. My other cousin lost her baby at 38 weeks but still have to 'give birth', she went on to have 2 more kids....so I know you're hurting right now, but it will happen for you i'm sure!
Cas. X
I had a miscarrage in 2006
So i know how you must be feeling
I was 5 weeks when i lost my baby
And belive me i was deverstated
Just remember its not your fault thease things just happen
But after that 2 months later i found
Out i was pregnant again and i had
A great pregnancy and we had a little boy
And now im due again im being
Induced next week so it just
goes to show that you can get over
This you never totally forget but as
time goes by you learn to accept it
take care hope your feeling a better soon
chaxxxxx
I am so sorry to hear your news. I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Take care. Sending you big hugs and lots of love.
dg
xxx
I think it was a really good idea to write it all down, wish I had done. We found councelling really helpful but not for months and months. Make sure you rest up and if you ever want to talk drop me a post xxxx