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Is it too soon? sorry another question aswell :-)
Hiya everyone! hope ur all ok?
Is it too soon to start again for a baby, i only had a still born nearly 7 weeks ago but i feel so empty. I'm NOT trying to replace my son i love him with all my heart i think about him all the time. but i just feel so down and really want to try again...
Has any one had a still born and fell pregnant quite soon after? or has someone had a baby so soon after their newborn? (hope that makes sense) is my body healed enough?
xxxxx Nikki xxxxx
[Modified by: Nikki & Graham on 18 January 2009 20:34:12 ]
Is it too soon to start again for a baby, i only had a still born nearly 7 weeks ago but i feel so empty. I'm NOT trying to replace my son i love him with all my heart i think about him all the time. but i just feel so down and really want to try again...
Has any one had a still born and fell pregnant quite soon after? or has someone had a baby so soon after their newborn? (hope that makes sense) is my body healed enough?
xxxxx Nikki xxxxx
[Modified by: Nikki & Graham on 18 January 2009 20:34:12 ]
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Just wanted to say i can relate to you to a certain degree. We lost our daughter at a 1 wk old and although we don't want to replace her in anyway we wanted to try for another baby.
I remember at the time that this happened i was talking to other people that lost their babies and they had all felt the same feeling, so don't feel that it's wrong.
If it's what both you and your partner are happy to do then i would start trying again. You get so ready and prepared for your life to change and it doesn't end up happening the way that you're expecting, you can't but help to want to get their again.
Hope this makes sense and is okay. It's been just over a year that we lost our little girl, can't believe how quick the time has gone, it's really surprising. We are expecting a girl in March and hoping all is going to go well.
Take Care and Good Luck
Becky
i wld say that only u know when ur ready again, and u know ur reasons for it and don't need to justify urself to anyone else. if u and ur OH feel ready to start trying again then go for it. physically tho it might be wise to speak to a gp or mw just to make sure that ur body can cope.
take care
xxx
luv clare
I think you've been very brave - I've read most of your posts and wish you lots of luck with whatever you decide to do.
xx
you havent been far from my thoughts in these last 7 weeks.
I think only you know whats right for you however do agree with the girls that you need to talk about it with a gp. there wasa girl on here who lost her still born daughter n started ttc 3 months later n fell quickly, you probably have been given all this but S.A.N.D.S provide lots of support and information.
obv im in a totally different place but regards your question (i think i understood it right) we were ttc when lo was 6 weeks so in that way i dont think there is a problem
take care
xxDBxx
Im sorry for your loss.
I personally think that you will know when you are ready, if you keep having little doubts or are still a little unsure maybe you need to give your self a bit more time.
You have been very brave sweetheart and I send you all the best wishes in the world. if you decide to ttc sooner rather than later then go for it thats great but do it when you are completely ready as if you do get pregnant too soon (as i know) things tend to worry you soooo very much more. I know you will worry tons more anyway after the sad time you have been through but I cant stress it enough....ttc when you feel you are completely ready( I wasnt and well lets just say I really wasnt ready.)
sorry to waffel on, im terrible at putting thoughts into words!
Takecare though babe xxxx
ive not had experience of this myself but my sisters sister in law had a stillborn baby boy back in july and she found out she was pregnant again 2 1/2 months after she lost him. She wasnt tryin to replace him as he will never be forgotten by anyone but she did feel numb untill she was expecting again.
sorry this isnt much help. but when you are ready to ttc again then you will know xx
Another question aswell sorry - ive got the consultant in 2 weeks and i want to ask some questions because i think they could of done alot more - i was nearly 37 weeks when i had the growth scan and my baby was 4 weeks behind (which i think is alot!!) and they booked me in for another one in 2 weeks time and he didnt make it - do u think they could of done more? or has any been induced because your baby's growth was behind if so how far behind? xxxx
Another question aswell sorry - ive got the consultant in 2 weeks and i want to ask some questions because i think they could of done alot more - i was nearly 37 weeks when i had the growth scan and my baby was 4 weeks behind (which i think is alot!!) and they booked me in for another one in 2 weeks time and he didnt make it - do u think they could of done more? or has any been induced because your baby's growth was behind if so how far behind? xxxx
I just wanted to say as others have that its only you two that can decide when you are ready and its none of anyone elses business. Deciding to ttc again is in no way going to replace your little boy or make you love him any less. The only thing i'd say is that if you aren't sure if its the right time then that may mean that you aren't ready yet - although i think you are def right in waiting till after you've seen the consultant.
As zoey said - best to write your questions down so that you don't forget to ask anything that is important to you.
i know my cousin didn't have another baby for a good couple of years but we aren't that close so I don't know if it was deliberate to wait that long or not. I had a mmc at 12 weeks which I know isn't anywhere near as devastating as what you went through and it was about 4 months before we felt like we were ready to try again.
I hope you find the answers you are looking for and wish you all the best in the future
xxx
Big hugsxx
First i just want to say how sorry i am to hear about your loss and that i no how you are feeling.......i had a stillborn baby girl on christmas day and it was the worst day of our lives...you just never think its going to happen to you its like the whole world just crashes down on you all at once!!!
I no how you feel when you say about wanting to try for another baby i feel the same to me and my oh are going to try once i have had my first period we are just going to see how things go and if it happens then it happens i no it will be a very scary time for us but its what we want more than anything, we didnt feel this way straight away we thought how could we go through all this again its amazing how you change your mind...did you feel this way at all? we are not trying to replace our little angel Daisy that could never be!!!
I hope you are doing ok and gettin through each day i no how hard it is just to get up in the mornin and sort your self out ready for the day ahead but some how we do it and some how we manage to get through.
I wish you and your oh all the best for the future and hope to hear from you real soon!!
Take care Kat xx