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dont know who else to talk too!!!im so fed up...
hi
i just need to scream lol,well tell you girls how fed up i am.
i live in a 2bedroom flat with my 5 kids,girl 14, boy 12, boy 10, girl 9, boy 2, plus 32+5 with twins..
my local landlord and council are just really driving me mad,i was hoping to move within next 4 weeks but they are saying im not overcrowded???????????????
i just want to cry im so fed up,no garden for kids to play in.
i have 2 bedrooms in room 1 i have put my 12+10 year old sons,in bedrom 2 i have my 14+9 year old girls, in lounge on sofa is me and on a mattress on floor is my 2year old boy!!!
where do i put twins??my son needs a bedroom but the 2 rooms have so space,does any1 have any knowledge on housing??
sorry to go on xxx
i just need to scream lol,well tell you girls how fed up i am.
i live in a 2bedroom flat with my 5 kids,girl 14, boy 12, boy 10, girl 9, boy 2, plus 32+5 with twins..
my local landlord and council are just really driving me mad,i was hoping to move within next 4 weeks but they are saying im not overcrowded???????????????
i just want to cry im so fed up,no garden for kids to play in.
i have 2 bedrooms in room 1 i have put my 12+10 year old sons,in bedrom 2 i have my 14+9 year old girls, in lounge on sofa is me and on a mattress on floor is my 2year old boy!!!
where do i put twins??my son needs a bedroom but the 2 rooms have so space,does any1 have any knowledge on housing??
sorry to go on xxx
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* children under the age of 7 years can share a room
* over the age of 7 years children can only share a room if they are of the same sex ( boys cant share a room with girls)
* a child is not classed as a person needing a room until the child is a year old.
im sorry im not any help really. maybe you could take photos/ video your home so they can see you needed a bigger home. keep phoning them and pester them until you and your family get the kind of home you need. again im sorry im not much help. x.
4 ur info i only had 3 kids here until 1st august then my ex-husband fell ill with M.S and social services had to remove them suddendly and bring them to me,so mayb you should see all facts 1st!!!
i didnt plan my babies,i was on pill and fell pregnant with tem,i lost my partner over this,so not planned but im blessed they are mine now.
i came on here for advise and support not to b put down,thanks MrsS1258 you have been such a great help!!!!!!!!!!!!!wish i hadnt bothered now.
mandy
so i have to go through the transfer list,which i couldnt do until i was getting child benefit which takes weeks to sort out,as my ex's family wouldnt let him sign over to me!!!long story.
mandy 32+5 twins x
The only thing i could suggest is to go to the council with all the children (straight from school so you don't get judged for taking them out) and say, ok I have 5 kids and 2 on the way, I need at least one more bedroom and ideally a garden. Perhaps if they see the problem they might be more sympathetic?
Good luck
I hope today is looking sunnier, I can't imagine how small a 2 bedroom must feel with well near enough 7 los, I have three in a two bed at the minute and it feels like a zoo! I am so sorry the council are dragging their feet, especially as it would seem that at least for the next couple months it going to be damn hard to just up and move, I mean with the immenant birth of you twins. Do you have anyone who can help? Are you anywhere near the Surrey area, I'd happily come give you a hand . Is it possible/ worth it to ask if there is anything in a council in the surrounding councils to yours? Maybe a different council might be able to move you more quickly, could you look for a larger house share, maybe four bed but have a lodger? I bet it just feels like too big a job so heavily pregnant with lots of people depending on you... sorry if my suggestions are less than helpful.
(((hugs)))
xx
hope u manage to find a solution soon
xx
thanks everyone..sorry my pc broke,now sorted...
i had a really down few days feel abit better now,ive been moved to priority but they say im not stat overcrowded as i have emough floor space.they used hall and kitchen in this..
said i can put 2 babies in moses baskets to slep i can fit a single bed in hall/?what the hell are they on??
anyway have meeting this week on wednesday so we will see?
ex is in council accomadation,3 bedroom bungalow...im with chelmsford borough council,they say i need 4 bed house,i agree but could b 2-3 years??
mandy x
take care
Lin24weeks
still getting no-where,i cannot privatly rent as local council wont help with deposits etc as i have a secure tenancy?
twins are counted until 1 years old.we r having loads of meetings etc,but as they say they dont have any houses,my size empty or ready anytime soon.
just have to wait and see.
mandy 34+2 twins
Otherwise put an advert offering to swap with someone looking to downsize?-long shot I know!
Whatever your housing situation- hope you are well and think you are so brave going it alone with 5 +2 babies !!
Good Luck xxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have been reading and I think you are very brave indeed. I respect your views with regards to your darling twins and I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time with this. Having been brought up in council/housing association homes myself, I am familiar with the house exchange programme. In fact my Mum and Dad very recently downsized their big home for a small place now us 'kids' have moved out. I know this process was a little time consuming for Mum and Dad, but they were offered 2 good properties in 6 months. They advertised in the paper and by puttting notices up... in supermarkets/local shops etc... Your flat would really suit someone whose children have grown up and left home. Maybe advertise online too? Gumtree.com I hear is a good facility?
Please keep us updated on your progress as we are all very concerned.
Good luck with your babies! Sending you best wishes and praying things will get easier for you soon.
Rach
thanks all xxxx
im on exchange boards etc....
im not brave just insane lol,no i love my kids they are all a true blessing ,we are so excited about the twins,be glad when they here now as im so tired of sleeping on sofa being so fat ..
i have had letters from h.v and social services regarding housing and still nothing with my local council im in band 3,which is 2 below me and 2 higher bands.
im facing facts im going to b bringing babies home to flat where i put them god knows lol.
i will really push in new year and fight until iget somewhere, i will go CAB see what they say.
thanks ,mandy 35+1 twins xxxxxxxx
when i was pregnant with my daughter there were 6 of us adults living in a 3 bedroom house and we were told we were legally over crowed and my opiions were to eith find somewhere private to rent and get help with paying that from benefits or risk having my daughter taken away at birth. i was very lucky that i went to the cheapest esate bloke (very well know as creap in local area, scummy places at all that) and thankfully he found me a 2 bedroom house. it was on the worse estate in the area but it meant i got to keep my daughter(and as it turns out they couldnt have taken her anyway without good reason and i think im a bloody good mum) after i moved in the council then told me that the place was too big for our needs (a bedroom each!omg!) and i had to pay half my rent then so i did for a year then i moved in with my boyfriend who i had only been with 9 months(not dd father) and he is now my hubby.
anyway i hope to god that they find you something very quickly. go to CAB they are so nice and will help until it is sorted. you can phone them if you cant get there! just goggle CAB. things will work themse;lfs out hun. good luck, thinking of you xx
good luck,let us know how things are going xx