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Just read your post. I have been through ivf and it cost us ??4000 pounds, so i know it is heartbreaking to have to go through it but i agree with you. Where will it stop? If they are asking for the money for investigations how will they pay forivf which will be alot more money? And what if they need more cycles and if they do fall pregnant how will they support a child?
I understand people get into debt etc but if they are serious about this they should clear their debts and then save the money themselves. Have you discussed these points with your o/h?
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Just read your post. I have been through ivf and it cost us ??4000 pounds, so i know it is heartbreaking to have to go through it but i agree with you. Where will it stop? If they are asking for the money for investigations how will they pay forivf which will be alot more money? And what if they need more cycles and if they do fall pregnant how will they support a child?
I understand people get into debt etc but if they are serious about this they should clear their debts and then save the money themselves. Have you discussed these points with your o/h?
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I can understand oh wanting to help out his brother, but in all honesty if they've had 3 holidays this year and are just back from Tenerife then as far as I'm concerned they should be flipping well paying for it themselves as they obviously have money coming in from somewhere. Or are they putting these holidays on credit cards as well?
It's such an emotive subject, and in a way it's very unfair to be putting it on you 2 when you have a young baby as you're just finding your feet as a family yourselves.
Maybe you could come to some sort of compromise, like when they finish paying off the current loan then you can talk about giving them another for fertility treatment? Might sound harsh to them having to wait even longer, but I think they need a bit of a reality check.
good luck getting it sorted out, massive (((hugs))) xxx
I agree that you are certainly not in the wrong for saying no THIS TIME, as the other ladies have said, what about the NEXT time and the time after that? Your oh cant keep taking out loans everytime his brother gets into trouble. It sounds like they need to look at their lifestyle (i.e the holidays) rather than relying on the fact your oh will bail them out each time.
I can understand you feeling guilty about the fertility treatment but again, they should really have started saving for this just incase the clomid didnt work.
I really feel for you as it sounds like you are in such an awful situation, please let us know what the outcome is.
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