Advice needed - partner not looking after himself and not finding him attractive
Me and my partner have been together 8 years . my partner is a bit of a gaming addict and it used to cause us some major problems, almost split up over it many times. We had a baby this year, he is now 4 months old and since getting pregnant our relationship has been much better, he has been much more caring, helps with housework and baby duties much more than I ever thought he would, tells me I'm still attractive etc, games much less than he used to, I really can't fault his behaviour .however.... it's really started to get to me that he doesn't take much pride in his appearance .he has been gradually putting on weight since we met and now he is what I would class as obese, he doesn't get his hair cut as often as he should, never does anything with his hair, just gets up and goes. He wears clothes that look trampy even tho he has better ones in the drawer and doesn't shave even tho he knows I hate facial hair .i don't find him attractive anymore but I love him lots and wouldn't leave him .should I tell him I don't find him attractive the way he is or should I just accept that it's just him and he is brilliant in other ways?