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Obsessed with their bits
I have a 6 yo boy and a 4 yo girl and recently they talk loads about bums and boobs and stuff and it is a bit worrying. I don't know where they hear this chat coz me and oh are strict and they only play in their own garden. We don't allow them to see any soaps or other programmes with any sexual content as I don't feel it is appropriate.
My mum saw my daughter today in the garden with her trousers and pants down and when she asked Lily what she was doing she replied matter of factly 'I was showing Brandon (my son) and Euan (my 5yo nephew) my woman (lady bits). I was horrified and told her if she ever did this again she would be smacked.
It may sound funny but I am becoming increasingly worried I overhear them talking about bums and stuff a lot and wondered am I over-reacting?? Has anyone else had this problem?? Any ideas on how to deal with this??
My mum saw my daughter today in the garden with her trousers and pants down and when she asked Lily what she was doing she replied matter of factly 'I was showing Brandon (my son) and Euan (my 5yo nephew) my woman (lady bits). I was horrified and told her if she ever did this again she would be smacked.
It may sound funny but I am becoming increasingly worried I overhear them talking about bums and stuff a lot and wondered am I over-reacting?? Has anyone else had this problem?? Any ideas on how to deal with this??
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Both my girls discovered around the age of 4 that it was quite nice to 'explore' their bits. At this age, it's basically a comfort type feeling and most of the time they didn't even realise they were doing anything! It did take us about 6 months or so of constant reminding that it wasn't something they shud be doing in public! Now, they're 7 & 6 respectively and whilst I don't for one minute think they've stopped completely, the initial novelty of it all has definitely worn off and we don't get the public display anymore. I think the key is to explain and remind thats it's not appropriate in public etc but to basically ignore it as much as you can.
I think its just normal exploration for them and I agree with mummyx5 that you don't want them to think they are doing something wrong but just try and discourage it.
Sam xx
my 3 older boys like to play with them selves and rosie has just started as she is now in knickers, i asked my hv for some advice about this when my eldest started to do it and she told me not to tell them it was naughty or wrong but to encourage them to not do it in areas where there are people around as it is private and suggest thier bedrooms or the bathrooms as a private place. as they are only trying to find out what happens when they do somethig and it is so natural for a child to do this. it does work. but i often still find my boys still doing it but i just remind them about private times . you might feel like you area brokrn record keeping telling them but it will get through eventually.xxxx
Thanks again xx
and i would not aviced to tell your child to go into there bed room my child will be there all day doing it i said that and it made the problem worse and now i have to put a cam in to her bed room so when shes in there she is not doing it as she will do it for 4 hours + she will do it antill i catch her doing it i just wish it would end
[Modified by: kasey on June 04, 2008 03:16 PM]
i'm really sorry that i can't be more help, i would just advise keep turning up at GP until he/she provides referral for some kind of support, even if its just to help you to cope with it and teach you how to distract her or change behaviuoral patterns.
hope this helps, good luck with it
Claudia xxxxx
keep making a fuss and i'm sure you will get there in the end. r the school helpful or not? will u let me know how you get on?
wishing you all the best, thinking of you
Claudia xxxx