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ahh - how do I stop her?????????
When our ds was born 7 wks ago my dd was really good. \since the first lot of snow and we were stuck in doors I have noticed my daughter showing what could be signs of jealousy or the snow timing might be coinscidental.
I cant turn my back on dd as she will try pulling or tipping him out the bouncer! We cant find the straps for it so he isnt strapped in but shes so quick. It hasnt been a problem until recently.
What am I talking about. couple of wks ago I turned my back to pick something up and I cant her trying to tip him out of the bouncer vertically, Whilst I was with her I also caught her trying to pull him out sideways. I've just answered the door to eletric meter reading man and dd came with me. As I showed the guy the meter next to the door, she nipped back into the living room and I heard a cry and found she had pulled him down off the bouncer onto the floor! Shes so quick! I've only held ds to feed him today otherwise he has been asleep. dd has had lots of time spent with me and cuddles. Which makes me think is it jealousy or not.
I thought that maybe she hasnt had much cuddles with him, so when she asked earlier I let her cuddle him. She showed me her strength by holding him nn her left arm supported by a cushion, then one handed pushed him into the sitting upright position as I took a photo of them having a cuddle!
The very first encounter which was partly my fault as I didnt check door was tightly closed, but last wk she was playing in hallway whilst i nipped into study to answer phone for like 2 mins. In that time she had picked him out of bouncer and onto sofa when he was sleep She must have lifted him as no signs of injury or anything. When I reached her she was about to take his socks off and said nappy change!!!
Since this incident she comes everywhere with me, but now I cant turn my back for a split second!
Only other thing is maybe she is trying to copy me or possibly does it when tired. She copies me with her doll and soft toys by copying burping, feeding and nappy changes.
I tell her off by getting down to her eye level and tell her off sternly. I cant do time out it doesnt work. What else can I do.....anyone else had this with2 children?
Told hubby and he says make sure dd is with me - I cant glue her to my front!
I forgot to say she is 29mths, would usually put son asleep in crib but its too cold up there during the day at the mo.
I cant turn my back on dd as she will try pulling or tipping him out the bouncer! We cant find the straps for it so he isnt strapped in but shes so quick. It hasnt been a problem until recently.
What am I talking about. couple of wks ago I turned my back to pick something up and I cant her trying to tip him out of the bouncer vertically, Whilst I was with her I also caught her trying to pull him out sideways. I've just answered the door to eletric meter reading man and dd came with me. As I showed the guy the meter next to the door, she nipped back into the living room and I heard a cry and found she had pulled him down off the bouncer onto the floor! Shes so quick! I've only held ds to feed him today otherwise he has been asleep. dd has had lots of time spent with me and cuddles. Which makes me think is it jealousy or not.
I thought that maybe she hasnt had much cuddles with him, so when she asked earlier I let her cuddle him. She showed me her strength by holding him nn her left arm supported by a cushion, then one handed pushed him into the sitting upright position as I took a photo of them having a cuddle!
The very first encounter which was partly my fault as I didnt check door was tightly closed, but last wk she was playing in hallway whilst i nipped into study to answer phone for like 2 mins. In that time she had picked him out of bouncer and onto sofa when he was sleep She must have lifted him as no signs of injury or anything. When I reached her she was about to take his socks off and said nappy change!!!
Since this incident she comes everywhere with me, but now I cant turn my back for a split second!
Only other thing is maybe she is trying to copy me or possibly does it when tired. She copies me with her doll and soft toys by copying burping, feeding and nappy changes.
I tell her off by getting down to her eye level and tell her off sternly. I cant do time out it doesnt work. What else can I do.....anyone else had this with2 children?
Told hubby and he says make sure dd is with me - I cant glue her to my front!
I forgot to say she is 29mths, would usually put son asleep in crib but its too cold up there during the day at the mo.
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Sam, Harrison & Daniel
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but I think your right sammy. How much do you think I should be letting her do?
We let her dress her dwarfs (we have doll size of happy, dopey and grumpy!) and doll in ds clothes, and put them in his car seat and bouncer. She also sits in his car seat to as shes quite petite. She sometimes lies under playmat with him. She pretend to burp her dolly and does nappy change alongside me. I also put him in the bath with her and let her wash his feet.
I guess I could make sure she cuddles him like once a day, liking the idea of helping with new clean nappy, apart from he someetimes wees! Im planning on buying reusables in new year and was going to get her the resuable dolls nappy.
palmtree - yep she always comes to the bathroom with me! The other day he was asleep in car seat in hallway and she was on potty in hall way. She got uip to move the car seat closer to her so she could rock it.
I let her rock him (gently) and sing to him.
minute try leaving for a bit longer and see how she goes, but make her feel grown up by asking her to keep an eye on him for you like a big girl. It may not work, or it may take a few tries before she stops trying to pick him up but it's worth trying. When he is asleep during the day I would also ask her to just go and check him to see that he is still asleep and check he is ok. Or when he wakes ask her to go and talk to him/play with him/sing to him cos she is mummy's big girl and you really need her help looking after him.
It's so difficult knowing how to get the older sibling involved, I wasn't sure what to do with Harrison, so I just ask him to do or help with everything I do with Daniel.
Sorry to waffle, hth.
If you need anymore ideas just message me hun.