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need support!! I feel so down :(
Hi ladies, for those who don't know me I'm tilly and have maddie (18 months old).
I don't know how to explain it but I've just been feeling so unhappy lately. i lost it last night and delted my fb account (if you know me, this is ridiculous! i dont think it will last long but i am hoping it will help).
I live with my mum, step-dad, younger brother and myself + maddie. My brother is extremely challenging (he's almost 9) to deal with, he doesn't have any social disorders or anything serious but i can not go more than an hour with him without it turing into a serious fight. Ok, sibling rivalry is normal, but this brings me to tears all the time.
Secondly, I've become incredibly lazy during the day and feel so guilty to admit this but most nights i am just counting down the hours til I can put Maddie to bed and relax. But I don't even relax, I just go on facebook and BE and watch tv. In the morning I will just put on some tv for me, then for maddie, and just lie on the couch doing nothing until its time to give her morning tea and for her to have her nap. Then after that we will eiter go to the shops or hang aorund in the garden, and a lot of the time i am on my phone checking fb while watching her. I ffeel so damn horrible.
I'm single but have recently met someone who I am VERY compatible with, but I havent told anyone about him yet as I am embarrassed about it (which is ridiculous in itself) - i've only been on one date with this guy so I don't want to get him too involved with my family until we are a 'sure thing' iykwim.
sorry for this rant but I really don't know who to talk to. I get so angry so easily (but never hurt maddie, i just boil up inside and end up crying when i fall asleep). I know you ladies aren't psychologists but I count you as my friends so please, any advice, anything. This is only recent (past month or so). But I have taken a 'do you have depression' thing and by my answers which are honest i am NOT depressed.
...................................help ;'(
PS. today i was on the computer a total of about 20 mins and had THE best day. amazing but now that im home i just feel so blerghhhhhhhh.
goodnight (its 10pm n in australia lol)
I don't know how to explain it but I've just been feeling so unhappy lately. i lost it last night and delted my fb account (if you know me, this is ridiculous! i dont think it will last long but i am hoping it will help).
I live with my mum, step-dad, younger brother and myself + maddie. My brother is extremely challenging (he's almost 9) to deal with, he doesn't have any social disorders or anything serious but i can not go more than an hour with him without it turing into a serious fight. Ok, sibling rivalry is normal, but this brings me to tears all the time.
Secondly, I've become incredibly lazy during the day and feel so guilty to admit this but most nights i am just counting down the hours til I can put Maddie to bed and relax. But I don't even relax, I just go on facebook and BE and watch tv. In the morning I will just put on some tv for me, then for maddie, and just lie on the couch doing nothing until its time to give her morning tea and for her to have her nap. Then after that we will eiter go to the shops or hang aorund in the garden, and a lot of the time i am on my phone checking fb while watching her. I ffeel so damn horrible.
I'm single but have recently met someone who I am VERY compatible with, but I havent told anyone about him yet as I am embarrassed about it (which is ridiculous in itself) - i've only been on one date with this guy so I don't want to get him too involved with my family until we are a 'sure thing' iykwim.
sorry for this rant but I really don't know who to talk to. I get so angry so easily (but never hurt maddie, i just boil up inside and end up crying when i fall asleep). I know you ladies aren't psychologists but I count you as my friends so please, any advice, anything. This is only recent (past month or so). But I have taken a 'do you have depression' thing and by my answers which are honest i am NOT depressed.
...................................help ;'(
PS. today i was on the computer a total of about 20 mins and had THE best day. amazing but now that im home i just feel so blerghhhhhhhh.
goodnight (its 10pm n in australia lol)
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Sorry you're feeling in the dumps but good to hear you had a good day!
I think many of moms fall into a "funk" now and again - I know I have too. Have you tried taking your dd to a park or meeting up with other moms in the area? Playgroups or any other parent and tot classes?
Also I think it would be beneficial for yourself to be "Tilly" and not "mommy" all the time - do you have a hobby? Is there something that you can do that you like to do? Photography, scrapbooking, crafting, running? Is it possible to leave your dd with your mom so you can get out on your own and with friends?
All I can say is try to make time for yourself and do something for you that you enjoy...
Hang in there - btw, where do you live? I have rellies in Perth - their pics of the beach they post on FB make me jealous:roll:
if u need some1 to jus talk to them my email button is on here too, hope ur ok, hopefully speak soon. xxxx ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))
First of all, I totally admire you (and all single parents) for doing it all on your own - I know I rely on my hubby a lot. Not just for help with the children but for adult conversation in the evening when the lo's are in bed! Maybe why you are spending your evenings on facebook and be? I hope you have a good relationship with your mum? I think it's hard to live at home as well, when you have grown up and have a child of your own. I love my family dearly, but I know it would be difficult to move back home!
18mths is a tricky age - things can be a little bit 'routine' and tedious when caring for a 18mth old - I do remember similar feelings myself lol! Life seemed like a succession of chores - breakfast, lunch, tea, bath, bed and activities in between! I think we all have days when we just want to lie on the sofa!
Don't worry - take heart that you are not actually depressed, and maybe try and think of a few more activities to get you out of the house a bit more. I do find that staying cooped up in the house a lot makes me feel a bit de-motivated!
Really hope you feel better soon. And good luck with your new bloke!
xx
frillypink - i play soccer in a ladies team (training twice a week, games on w/e) and go to playgroup once a week as well. But I havent been in a month due to easter holidays and my brother getting chicken pox so we didnt want to risk spreading it (thank god maddie didnt end up catching them, today is the last day that she could have gotten it since my brother was infectious up til 2 weeks ago, so we can finally get out a bit more now) and i live in brisbane (opposit side of the country lol) xx
butterfly - my mum and i are pretty close thankfully, she's also a psychologist, but sometimes thats the last thing i want to talk to her for lol. and i know, i am so excited about visiting you all!! t will be amazing and its good to have something to look forward to!!
tottie - i have never lived out of home so i dont miss being onmy own but i do want to have my own space so much, i am going a little crazy but since im a SAHM i cant afford to live by myself with maddie as yet. i am studying full time (4 years from feb 2011) soon and after that will have more than enough to support us but til then i will be here. sad face!!!!!
thanks mrsjb and keri-anne... i don't know what else to say... i love all of you!! and i can't wait for the mother of all playdates in june/july lol.
arghhhhhhhhhhh i have to go but i will keep you updated... and sandie, katie and fiona have all emailed me so you could ask one of them if you like xxxx
going to type this bit in big letters YOU ARE A FAB MUMMY!!!!!!!! DO NOT FORGET THAT!!!!!
((((((((hhugs)))))))) to you and maddie, love fi and hayden
You are a fab Mummy to Maddie and you can tell how happy she is from your photographs!
You know where we are if you need us x x x x
Good luck hun x
Not long till your trip and we'll have lots of fun playdates. Just shout if you need anything, a little time out won't do any harm. S xx