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Trouble settling into nursery ;(
Hi
My DS is 14 months and this week he started his settling in sessions at nursery. He will be going for 2 afternoons a week on 6 Sept. I am returning to work, but it is mine and my husbands company so I don't actually have to but for me I have decided to.
Anyway, he is really struggling. The first session he was ok , cried a bit and when I got there as soon as he saw me he started to crying. The second session was awful. The nursery had to call me back after half an hour as he wouldn't stop crying and refused cuddles. When I went into the room he was at the gate crouched down holding onto his teddy and the gate just shrieking. He had a rash on his face, puffy red eyes and was literally squealing he was sooooo upset like he was frightened. The nursery have suggested I take him every day next week as he is not settling well.
I think I will try Monday but I don't know if I can do it after that if he is the same, it just feels so cruel. What are other peoples experiences? Any thoughts on whether I should persist, give up or try a nanny instead?
Thanks
My DS is 14 months and this week he started his settling in sessions at nursery. He will be going for 2 afternoons a week on 6 Sept. I am returning to work, but it is mine and my husbands company so I don't actually have to but for me I have decided to.
Anyway, he is really struggling. The first session he was ok , cried a bit and when I got there as soon as he saw me he started to crying. The second session was awful. The nursery had to call me back after half an hour as he wouldn't stop crying and refused cuddles. When I went into the room he was at the gate crouched down holding onto his teddy and the gate just shrieking. He had a rash on his face, puffy red eyes and was literally squealing he was sooooo upset like he was frightened. The nursery have suggested I take him every day next week as he is not settling well.
I think I will try Monday but I don't know if I can do it after that if he is the same, it just feels so cruel. What are other peoples experiences? Any thoughts on whether I should persist, give up or try a nanny instead?
Thanks
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[Modified by: hollypolly on August 21, 2010 07:58 AM]
Also - it might be tempting to sneak out, when he's not looking, but NEVER do that! Always say goodbye and make sure he sees you go (It makes it harder for you - but much much easier for him).
We are putting Abby (16 months) into nursery in sept, and I am a bit nervous about it. I hope it goes well, as I love the nursery so much, and the visits (I have stayed with her the whole time so far) have gone really well, in fact the only time she cried was when we tried to get her to leave! xxx
My lo started settling in sessions when he was 12 months old, the first 4 times he cried the entire hour, I'd collect him and he'd be bright red and sobbing, it broke my heart ! The nursery advised us to leave him there for longer than an hour. I collected him after his first 2 hour session and was completely gobsmaked to find him napping after having had a yoghurt! We've not looked backed since, he loves nursery, it's done wonders for his development so try to stick with it, he'll settle eventually.
If you can stand it, try leaving him a bit longer. I was 'rescuing' him while he was still upset instead of giving him the time to calm down on his own. It's incredibly difficult, goodluck!x
Im surprised the nursery called you back. My lo has been in nursery for almost a year and they have never called because my lo is too upset they always deal with it by distraction etc... It is hard enough leaviing yur lo with nursery but even harder when they cry for you!
Emma x
I know it's heartbreaking but stick with it for a bit longer. I would definitely leave him for at least an hour so that he can get involved in a sing-song or something.
H xx
I know it's heartbreaking but stick with it for a bit longer. I would definitely leave him for at least an hour so that he can get involved in a sing-song or something.
H xx