I'm writing a story for tomorrow's Independent on Sunday and would love to speak to one of you on exactly this topic - how difficult it is for working mums to go back to work without adequate flexibility of hours and soaring childcare costs etc. I'd ideally like to speak to someone who wants to go back to work but doesn't feel they can.
Could you please message me your number if you don't mind, so we can have a quick chat? I'm on victoriarichards@gmail.com, or you can call me on my mobile: 07824 668028.
It'd be great to talk to you asap as we're working to deadline, so if you can help - or know anyone else in a similar position - please do get in touch.
I think it's a real shame that people think it's acceptable to judge you and imply that you would be lazy for wanting to stay at home. Besides that, I just don't understand how anyone can think looking after children is "lazy" or a nice easy way to spend your days, considering that nannies, nursery nurses and childminders are employed to do it as a paid job!
I'm not pg yet but I am planning to work part time once I am a mum. This is for a combination of financial reasons (I earn more that DH so if I gave up completely we would lose a huge proportion of our total income) and being lucky enough to have a job I love that has a good work/life balance. However, the appeal to be a SAHM is definitely a strong one for me and anybody who wants to do this and is able to should absolutely not feel that they have to justify themselves to anybody.
My mum stayed home with my sister and I until I was about 15 before she started working even part time, and I absolutely loved the fact that she was always there taking care of us (I am sure I took it for granted at the time - but am hugely thankful for it now).
Different people's circumstances are so very different and just because many people choose to work nowadays (whether full or part time), it doesn't mean that staying home is some sort of cop-out! Do what is right you YOU and just think of all the amazing things you will experience by being home with your LO. I'm sure once your baby arrives and you start meeting other SAHMs you will see that there are like-minded people out there who wouldn't dream of judging you for what is really an incredibly important and personal choice. xx
The only one who can make the decision is you and your oh. Everyone else can bog off!! lol. I would love to be a s@hm but I'll prob have to go back to work just to make ends meet but I don't want to. If we can afford it I want to be @home. Do what you feel's right, not what others think you should do. Good luck xxx
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I'm writing a story for tomorrow's Independent on Sunday and would love to speak to one of you on exactly this topic - how difficult it is for working mums to go back to work without adequate flexibility of hours and soaring childcare costs etc. I'd ideally like to speak to someone who wants to go back to work but doesn't feel they can.
Could you please message me your number if you don't mind, so we can have a quick chat? I'm on victoriarichards@gmail.com, or you can call me on my mobile: 07824 668028.
It'd be great to talk to you asap as we're working to deadline, so if you can help - or know anyone else in a similar position - please do get in touch.
Victoria:\)
I'm not pg yet but I am planning to work part time once I am a mum. This is for a combination of financial reasons (I earn more that DH so if I gave up completely we would lose a huge proportion of our total income) and being lucky enough to have a job I love that has a good work/life balance. However, the appeal to be a SAHM is definitely a strong one for me and anybody who wants to do this and is able to should absolutely not feel that they have to justify themselves to anybody.
My mum stayed home with my sister and I until I was about 15 before she started working even part time, and I absolutely loved the fact that she was always there taking care of us (I am sure I took it for granted at the time - but am hugely thankful for it now).
Different people's circumstances are so very different and just because many people choose to work nowadays (whether full or part time), it doesn't mean that staying home is some sort of cop-out! Do what is right you YOU and just think of all the amazing things you will experience by being home with your LO. I'm sure once your baby arrives and you start meeting other SAHMs you will see that there are like-minded people out there who wouldn't dream of judging you for what is really an incredibly important and personal choice. xx