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how long did it take lo to settle in nursery?
Hi ladies,
My lo is 11 months and had his second settling in session today. It was only an hour and when i went to collect him he was hysterical, bright red, really very upset. They said he'd started 10 mintues before i arrived and were about to take his temperature as he was so hot. He's not ill, he'd just worked himself up so much he'd over-heated.
Im now really worried about my return to work in 2 weeks. How's he going to manage 4 hours there if he's in such a state after an hour?! Im going to take him twice next week but i think it'll be a long time before he's happy there.
I feel awful as he's not used to being left with anyone, we've not had anyone to leave him with.
Is this normal? Do you think he'll be ok, im so worried about him
My lo is 11 months and had his second settling in session today. It was only an hour and when i went to collect him he was hysterical, bright red, really very upset. They said he'd started 10 mintues before i arrived and were about to take his temperature as he was so hot. He's not ill, he'd just worked himself up so much he'd over-heated.
Im now really worried about my return to work in 2 weeks. How's he going to manage 4 hours there if he's in such a state after an hour?! Im going to take him twice next week but i think it'll be a long time before he's happy there.
I feel awful as he's not used to being left with anyone, we've not had anyone to leave him with.
Is this normal? Do you think he'll be ok, im so worried about him
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I've never had any problems with Shea at nursery as he's always loved it and I struggle to get him to leave sometimes.
but I have witnessed some other children who have started at an older age: -
I've seen one little girl who started at one year and she screams blue murder when her mum leaves, but literally 2 minutes after she's all smiles and giggles and as right at rain!!
I've also seen others who get quite upset and tetchy just before their parents arrive, its like they know the time is coming and get fed up and want their parents.
I wouldn't worry too much, I'm sure he'll be fine and he will pick up on your anxieties too so try and be positive. As long as you are happy and comfortable with the nursery he will be ok. You can always phone them as much as you like too. Do they keep a diary so you can also see what he's been up to? Shea's nursery has so many activities for them I don't think he has time to miss me!!!!
Going back at first is very hard and you'll probably be hard on yourself at first but it does get better and lo will settle xx
It was just awful seeing him so upset. Ive got visions of them phoning me at work to collect him. I will try to stay really calm and happy around him though, i don't want him to pick up on my anxiety.
Im just struggling with the whole back-to-work thing in general xx
but it does get better, honest!! Just remember that when you aren't working your time with lo has to be the best quality fun ever!!!
I also think that me working and Shea going to nursery has done him the world of good. He is very foward for his age and interacts so well with other children and adults, and I believe this is all to do with the activities and help he gets at nursery.
It also the best feeling in the world to collect him and as soon as he sees me he runs up and give me the biggest hug and kiss, and now he's talking telling me he loves me (makes me cry everytime!!) but even tho he's glad to see me I know he hasn't missed me that much!!!
I don't think nursery would call you if he didn't stop crying, after all you are paying for their service and they need to do all they can to make him happy. If you are so close why don't you ask if you could pop in at lunchtimes and have an hour with him at nursery then??
Good luck honey I'm sure everything will work out fine xx
Now at 26 months he still loves nursery runs off happily in the morning always smiling and full of kisses and he loves all the other kids and staff. Nursery has been the making of him.
It is soooooooo hard but it will come good and your lo will settle I promise but some take longer than others!
I'm going to speak to the nursery tomorrow and get him booked in for 2 sessions next week, I'm going to ask if I can stay with him for one of them-see if that helps. We've also worked out that hubbie has enough annual leave left to take to cover the first 2 weeks when I go back. We're going to see if they'll let us leave lo for just 2 hours instead of the full 4 or 4 so it could be another month until he's going for a longer period. Hopefully that'll ease his anxieties slightly.
Thanks again girls xx
Jack started nurrsery at 9 months hes now 26 months and just moved up another room to Tigers. He was always fine when he was younger but just recently he screams blue murder when i leave him. I worry all morning at work then when i call at lunch hes been fine and playing all morning. Its hard to leave them but id try not to worry too much xx
Jack started nurrsery at 9 months hes now 26 months and just moved up another room to Tigers. He was always fine when he was younger but just recently he screams blue murder when i leave him. I worry all morning at work then when i call at lunch hes been fine and playing all morning. Its hard to leave them but id try not to worry too much xx