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Discipline???
Right - i let Toby do pretty much whatever he wants - if there is something i dont want him to go near then i hide it or put it to a higher level - should i be doing this or should i be making him not go (really not sure this would work!!)
He throughs his sippy cup on the floor - should i be sayting no or should i wait till he is older and can understand.
Toby is 10 months old on Sunday (also our wedding anniversary ahhh) and me and hubby are both soft as butter but need to get this sorted if indeed it does need to be sorted.
Any advice/questions would be fab x
He throughs his sippy cup on the floor - should i be sayting no or should i wait till he is older and can understand.
Toby is 10 months old on Sunday (also our wedding anniversary ahhh) and me and hubby are both soft as butter but need to get this sorted if indeed it does need to be sorted.
Any advice/questions would be fab x
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Whilst I think that they're too young to understand discipline-as a consequence of their actions, as such, I don't think it does any harm to let them know that there are boundaries etc. I don't think it's necessarily wrong for a baby to hear the word 'no' & understand what it means. xx
he doesn't understand yet...well if he does then he's just ignorant lol xx
But when it's exploration that doesnt really cause harm I just let him go - B has an obsession with our bathroom, particularly pulling the rubber door stop out from beneath the door and sucking on it or poking his fingers down the drain holes in the floor. He keeps doing it over and over so I now just keep the door stop and the drain clean!! Hubby prefers to close the door but I think this is inhibiting his exploration (he just has no patience!) I do draw the line though with the toilet - he pulled himself up on it tonight and licked it. :x Ive also known kids to climb in there so that's a safety thing as well as hygiene so that's a definate UH UH!!
We arent totally baby proofing our house either, I prefer to teach him right from wrong so that he can apply this to wherever he goes - the majority of other places wont be baby proofed!
I think there needs to be a balance, certain amount of baby proofing, but definitely good to set boundaries and teach good habits.
xxx
Also how you say it can make a difference, whilst they are babies obviously you aren't saying it in a telling off kind of way but it should be in a sterner, non playful tone of voice.
We're avoiding 'no' as much as we can, because we know Jak's too young to understand it properly and we really don't want it to just become any old word that loses all meaning. I say it for 2 things - when he tries to take his nappy off (through his vest AND trousers now, cheers Jak!) or when he bites. If he goes for something he shouldn't have, I distract him or move him. I don't want him to get a bit older and still hear 'No' but have more capability of getting round it, iyswim? Don't get me wrong - I'm not soft in the slightest, but I don't want him to be drawn to the things he's not allowed to do, I'd rather he focused on what he was allowed to do really.
God, I sound wishy-washy, sorry!
Em x
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