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My husband works for a small family firm and his bosses have recently had a baby. The mum brings the baby into work most days and is there for anything from 2 to 8 hours. She brings the baby in the carseat and leaves her in there all day, only taking her out to feed her.
He has dropped a few subtle hints about how comfy our LO was in his carrycot and do they use theirs much etc and they said no she is really comfy in her carseat.
Do you think we should mind our own business and let them do what they want with their baby or do you think he should tell them it's actually not good for her to be in a carseat for 8 hours at a time? This is their 5th child so I am not sure how receptive they would be to advice from someone with 1 baby?!?!
He has dropped a few subtle hints about how comfy our LO was in his carrycot and do they use theirs much etc and they said no she is really comfy in her carseat.
Do you think we should mind our own business and let them do what they want with their baby or do you think he should tell them it's actually not good for her to be in a carseat for 8 hours at a time? This is their 5th child so I am not sure how receptive they would be to advice from someone with 1 baby?!?!
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I've agonised over saying something and decided not to-her relative is an intelligent woman, they wouldt want to hear what I had to say on the matter and it would make my life in work hell, quite frankly, I don't need the stress!
Sorry to hijack your thread-good luck with whatever you decide, personally I wouldn't say anything x
Well my OH came home from work today saying they have decided because she is there so much to buy a swing to leave there. At least she will be out of the car seat but it's barely any better, she is still not lying flat. I also kind of get the feeling they want something to keep her quiet when she starts getting fed up!!
I think she gets plenty of cuddles, mainly from my OH though when he is missing LO lol! I keep telling him he should take LO in and say he thought it was bring your baby to work week lol!
They are very much the 'been there done that' kind of parents and a bit stubborn about lots of other things too (OH doesn't enjoy being there at all) so I don't think they would take kindly to him saying anything and are a bit too thick/pigheaded to take subtle hints. I disagree with a lot of their parenting styles tbh but it's not my place to judge, it's just when it is blatently bad for the baby that I find it hard to ignore.
Thanks for your advice. I think saying directly to them that we had been told not to leave him in the carseat for more than 2 hours is the only way they will listen, even then I doubt it!
Whilst I don't doubt your motives I don't think much good will come of you saying anything and it sounds like they won't listen anyway, so I'd keep quiet and save your OH the hassle. Some people are determined to parent in a stupid and damaging fashion regardless of sensible advice. Oh the stories I could tell of a local babe who was weaned at 8 weeks on baked bean sauce and chocolate buttons. Oh yes.
8 weeks on bb and buttons wtf!!!!!! some people arenuts!
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Thanks for your advice everyone, I would tend to agree that he shouldn't say anything, it is going to be hard to bite his tongue every day but it's not worth the hassle. The boss is a pathalogical liar and a bit volatile so he is better keeping his head down until he finds another job!
So sick of everything being difficult all the time, he really needs to get a stable job and stay there for a while,