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Others kissing your baby
Following on from the touching hands thread...
I took James to his first settling in session at nursery yesterday. The carer looking after the 1/2 year olds kept cuddling them and kissing them. Now the kids didn't mind, and it wasn't because they were upset or anything. It was just affection.
The carer who will be looking after James some of the time, wasn't doing it. I found myself relieved that she wasn't.
So what do you think? Is it ok for someone not related, who cares for your child to kiss and cuddle them? I would hope James gets a cuddle if he's upset, but I'm not sure I want someone else giving him lots of kisses. xx
I took James to his first settling in session at nursery yesterday. The carer looking after the 1/2 year olds kept cuddling them and kissing them. Now the kids didn't mind, and it wasn't because they were upset or anything. It was just affection.
The carer who will be looking after James some of the time, wasn't doing it. I found myself relieved that she wasn't.
So what do you think? Is it ok for someone not related, who cares for your child to kiss and cuddle them? I would hope James gets a cuddle if he's upset, but I'm not sure I want someone else giving him lots of kisses. xx
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Going back to carers, if you were looking after a child regulary, perhaps several days a week, you would have a soft spot for them. We do all afterall teach our children to demonstrate affection with hugs and kisses. I'm sure we've all witnessed the teeny 5 yr olds doting on their teachers?! I know there are some horrible people out there and heaven forbid any of us or our children should meet them, but wouldn't you rather your children receive affection from the adults in their live as opposed to any other emotion.
Maybe I've not thought of something though. Interested to know everyone's thoughts.
S x
These children are younger, and yes affection is important. But teachers at school might give the children a cuddle, but lots of random kisses? Do correct me if I'm wrong. ) I think it's fine for a kiss and cuddle to say hello and goodbye.
Maybe it's because I don't know these carers yet, and James doesn't yet have a relationship with them. xx
That said, she was a child who thrived on kisses and cuddles, not all kids like them, so as long as there is respect and space afforded to the children who really don't like being fussed over, that's fine. Also important that parental wishes are respected, so if it's not your personal bag, and you ask that the staff lay off the kisses, they should do so.
DS doesn't give people a chance to consider not kissing him, you pick him up and he launches at you with a big drooly grin. He's a kisser alright!