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Failed by system -3rd dg tr
So after having a 3rd degree tear with the birth of my DD, I stayed in 2nites and was sent home with Antibiotics and Stool softner.
I never had any follow up's was never asked about it at my 6week check. I continued to take laxatives on and off for 2 1/2 yrs after having her and even visited my GP due to discomfort who shouldve acknowleged the tear in my notes, who told me it was most probably piles that i was suffering with.
Anyway, since falling pregnant with my 2nd child (31+5) I was forward to see consultants about what steps to take with the delivery this time around to avoid complications. I finally saw a Consultant/Gyno who's area off interest happens to be 3rd & 4 Degree tears who told me I've been completley failed by the system as after 12wks of have DD I shouldve recieved Pyshio and have a internal scan done an been given a whole lot of support and given me all the information i wouldve required to have a 2nd pregnancy.
However none of this happened so they cnt give me an idea of whether i could manage a normal delivery or would require a csec. Am really stuck between a rock and a hard place because they give you all the scary information about c-sec but they cnt put my mind at easy that i wont be left with anymore damage down below.
I dont really want to plan a c sec cos i dont want to be away from my dd and oh im so independent aswell i dont like relying on others to do things for me that would be the case if i had a csec. I've got 3 weeks to make my mind up anyone got any thoughts on this? :? x
I never had any follow up's was never asked about it at my 6week check. I continued to take laxatives on and off for 2 1/2 yrs after having her and even visited my GP due to discomfort who shouldve acknowleged the tear in my notes, who told me it was most probably piles that i was suffering with.
Anyway, since falling pregnant with my 2nd child (31+5) I was forward to see consultants about what steps to take with the delivery this time around to avoid complications. I finally saw a Consultant/Gyno who's area off interest happens to be 3rd & 4 Degree tears who told me I've been completley failed by the system as after 12wks of have DD I shouldve recieved Pyshio and have a internal scan done an been given a whole lot of support and given me all the information i wouldve required to have a 2nd pregnancy.
However none of this happened so they cnt give me an idea of whether i could manage a normal delivery or would require a csec. Am really stuck between a rock and a hard place because they give you all the scary information about c-sec but they cnt put my mind at easy that i wont be left with anymore damage down below.
I dont really want to plan a c sec cos i dont want to be away from my dd and oh im so independent aswell i dont like relying on others to do things for me that would be the case if i had a csec. I've got 3 weeks to make my mind up anyone got any thoughts on this? :? x
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Im so sorry to hear that you were failed by the NHS....
I suffered a 3rd degree tear 13 weeks ago (today !!) and was also sent home with antibiotics and laxatives....A physio came to see me before I went home who just told me to do lots of pelvic floors....
The doctor didnt check me at the 6 week check but I did have a hospital app 8 weeks after the birth and a midwife checked my stitches....I still have one stitch in there buts its very deep so will take a while longer to disolve....
I was told that even after having a 3rd degree tear I would have every chance of giving birth naturally again so I can't see why you can't !!!!!
DLAM xxx
sorry forgot to say that I was discharged at that midwife appointment and I do not need to go back for any internal scans etc etc........
DLAM xxx
Thanks for sharing your experience tho.x
I guess each labour is soooo different.....
I think you will need to tell the MW your feelings so that if she thinks there is a high chance of tearing she can get you into the C section earlier so its not an Emergency !!!
Im sure the MW will also slow down your pushes so that the baby crowns slowly....I tore as I pushed so chuffing hard his head came out in one push !!! (only pushed 5 times in total !!!)
hope all goes well...but my advice is to talk to the MW as much as possible....
DLAM xxx
I'm thinkin i might try giving natural ago, as like you i dont want to be laid out for nearly 6weeks. I couldnt bare not being able to do all normal things and tbh i dont remember it being all that bad once i was home with her.
I suppose all i can do is give it ago and hope 2nd time around it dont all go wrong
I was told that unless it was a real medical need then c-secs are only an emergency.
Good on you for trying the natural route!!! As a professional who works in a maternity theatre performing both elective and emergency sections I can help with any questions you might have should it come to that, not officially obviously, just advice. I'm sure with the support of your obstetric team, there is no reason why would be taken to theatre.
I'm glad that i kept draggin out my consultant appointments and didnt book myself in for an elective at 39wks as i'd have been alot sorer then i am now. The first of march was my final consultant appointment too to get my booked in for elective so Its fate that he came when he did.
Plus i was home the same afternoon as having my DS an have been out and about like normal, if not pushing it too much lol
My BS is in BIF